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In-laws and their unnatural attachement to BMs...

princessmofo's picture

Miss Kay's response to another blog got me to thinking. She mentioned that the in-laws would pull out photos of bm and dh around her and she subsequently cut them out of her life *Good for you, Miss Kay Smile *

I had a similar experience. My MIL kept pictures, including wedding, of dh and bm up long after we married. So I too cut those vile, putrid soul-sucking in-laws out of my life as well.

But how many other STalkers have experienced this? I know there has to be a few and how did you and dh deal with it?

My dh politely asked MIL to remove them. She refused. She even attended twat waffle's nuptials when she got married to the flying monkey even though dh asked her not to as it seemed like a slap in the face to him. She responded with he could go f*ck himself and someday he would live to regret letting horse-face bitch devil cunt get away. Yea, MIL was a real classy lady :sick: ...

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princessmofo's picture

It's liberating, isn't it?! And I regret nothing! In fact so many things have become simpler since we cut them out. And twat waffle sure seems to know a lot less about what goes on in our home since MIL can't come over and play cloak and dagger and report back to her bff cuntcakes.

princessmofo's picture

Oh good lord almighty! Yes! She did it all the damn time. It took dh a long time to recognize her duplicity. And I should've known better when I met the old nicotine infused fossil that she was trouble. On our first meeting she told me point blank that she and twat waffle were good friends and always would be. Well, how nice for you, you wrinkled bag of bile. I have enough friends and don't need your friendship.

Ninji's picture

FMIL says that she hates BM and bad mouths her non stop but has a picture of them up on her wall. I've been with BF for five years and no pics of me. (BF and BM were also not married) I hated it at first, but I don't care now. She looks like a homeless person in it. Actually BF, BM and all 4 kids look like total white trash in it.

Ninji's picture

All BF had when I met him was rock bank T Shirts and he was 35. He dresses like an adult now and almost all his rock band T's have been put in a box in the attic for "memories"

Ninji's picture

LOL..BM has worked at a ton of bars since I met BF and all I ever see her wear is Bar T Shirts. We joke about it all the time.

Teas83's picture

I'm lucky in this regard. My MIL and her husband don't say much about BM. My husband's brother hates her with a passion. He always tells me how well my husband has done by finding me. It's nice to be appreciated.

zerostepdrama's picture

My SILs always talk about how snarky and mean and petty BM was to DH and how awful she was when they were married but all of them are friends with her on FB and if any of the skids post a pic with BM (like a #tbt) they always "Like" it. Bothers me. One SIL told me "I dont think its hurting nothing being friends with her on FB." Ummm okay whatever.

With that being said... I am somewhat close with my ExMIL. We are friends on FB. If we have to email each other regarding BS we will ask how each other are doing and share a little of what has been going on in each other's lives.

My Ex doesnt see BS that often and has NO IDEA what is going on in his day to day life. So if ExMIL needs information on something, she comes to me. We both feel comfortable handling it this way.

She has always been nice to me and I to her. We have no issues with each other. She knows her son, my Ex is an ass.

Ex hasnt had a serious relationship since we split up. So I dont know how my relationship with ExMIL will change when someone else is in the picture. I understand boundaries, so I dont think it will be an issue.

ExMIL will tag herself in my pics on FB of BS and sometimes if its a pic of me and BS, she will tag herself then too. LOL. Kind of weird when she first started doing that. She even did it to a picture of me, DH and BS.

DaizyDuke's picture

MIL loaned BM1 money to buy Christmas presents last year and paid for a storage unit for her when she got evicted for the umpteenth time. Mind you BM1 and DH were never married, never dated, NOTHING.. she was just a tramp that DH slept with when he was young and drunk and dumb.

A few years ago when BM2 was collecting unemployment, MIL offered to let her clean her mother's house and paid her under the table. Like really??? There aren't 400 people out there looking for work, and you gotta call BM2??? and same thing.. DH was never married to BM2, they dated for a while, DH told me how much MIL (SUPPOSEDLY) HATED BM2 at the time but now you'd think she's her bestest buddy??? THEN MIL was watching BS for me after I first went back to work so BS was about 4 months old. EVERY morning when I would get there to drop BS off, MIL would be on the phone with BM2, then she'd hang up and start talking about her. I finally told her one day that I really didn't care to hear about either BM.. but that didn't stop her. I also made it 1000% clear that I did not want BS within a hundred mile radius of either BM. One day when DH was talking to BM2 about something, she throws in the conversation "Oh I saw BS yesterday when he was with MIL, he's so cute!" I flipped the fuck out, I almost left DH right then and there.. he was all panicky like "I can't control the woman, I didn't have anything to do with it!!!"

... and MIL wonders why I don't have anything to do with her.

Anon2009's picture

In this circumstance I think you are absolutely correct. Anyone who cheats on a loved one of mine is out of my life. Done. I'd continue to see the kids with the non cheater and support the non cheater in getting more custody.

SMLIFESUCKS's picture

MIL/FIL say they hate BM. I think they do because of all she put DH through to include getting CC's and other stuff in his name, he knew nothing about.

But BM has started contacting MIL/FIL to go to Skids events at school and etc...

This is all of a sudden. MIL did have a picture of DH, BM and SD11(then 1) out with the rest for awhile. I didn't say anything to anyone. It would stare at me, I felt uncomfortable. So I just took DH, kids, skids and I to get a family picture done. I gave her an 8 X 11 in a huge gold antique frame, that now sits in front of where the other picture was. I'm guessing it's shoved behind it. LOL

msg1986's picture

When Dh and I first started dating Mil and Bm had no relationship-they shared a mutual hate for one another. When Dh and I bought our home a few years ago suddenly MIL had to be Bm's savior and started babysitting for Bm, buying Ss school supplies/clothes, doing favors for Bm and even started to be Bm's support system for advice when things went wrong in her life. MIL has scaled back a ton after Dh told her that she could carry on with Bm all she liked but that she wouldn't be seeing us or Dd anymore. It's gotten better but I still don't trust MIL. I just play nice for the sake of my husband.

stepinafrica's picture

They do it to make you jealous. I bet they did some passive aggressive bs to HER when she was with your DH. In laws are the same all over the world. Lol

hurtandalone's picture

Well my MIL said that she hated BM, but when push came to shove I was the one that she (and her mother) were screaming in my face saying that they wish I didn't exist because then DH could still be with BM. The same BM that abandoned her kids, lived across the country, hadn't seen them in over 2 years, and paid all of $92 in 4 years to support. Yeah, okay.

BOTH of them, along with my FIL because he got on board too (even though they are divorced) will never darken my doorstep for as long as I live.