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Dear BM: I was Not married to you so you don't get to dictate my and my bios lives to us. . .save that for d*ckless ex-dh. . .

princessmofo's picture

This is really nothing new for you seasoned step-talkers here. But suddenly, horseface bm is trying desperately to stick to the parenting plan as we are in litigation with her and is insisting on an "itinerary" of our family vacation, in writing, before she will benevolently grant her permission for ss. She's never done this before. Just saying folks. . . if it comes down to her saying no to dh and ss I am still taking my bios on the vacation. . . ALONE. I was not married to the evil bridge dwelling troll so I am not subject to her "rules" and neither are MY children. If this drives a wedge between dh and I, then so be it. Enough is enough here. My children will not suffer because of this. They deserve the trip and I will not let them down. And I will not reschedule. We will go and dh can get glad in the same pants he got mad in. Just had to rant that out.

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B22S22's picture

hey -- I've done that before!

Honestly, probably one of the best vacays my kids and I ever had.

Just curious though, does your DH know you're considering this? I know my DH was torn between staying home and going with us without the SK's. He ended up staying home, and he didn't even get to spend any time with his kids.

princessmofo's picture

Nope. I'm waiting for the "approval" from her royal highness lady stank tw*t. It may all blow over, but if it comes down to dh whining that "ss can't go so we all can't go" I'm going to tell him where he can go.

tiffmomof3's picture

Do you need approval? In our custody papers each parent can vacation with child up to 2 weeks with proper notice. As long as the vacation does not interfere with school or the other parents holiday time she really has no right to "approve" anything. Just provide with basic itinerary (only locations child will be at, not what you will be doing. If that is not part of the custody papers I suggest on next court date you ask the judge to clarify, no parent should have to ask permission, it puts power in the other parents hands when there shouldn't be.

B22S22's picture

My DH's parenting plan references getting the other parents' permission to take SK's out of state. Funny, the BM goes to visit her family (out of state) and nothing is ever asked/said/done. But the few times WE have wanted to take them out of state on vacation.... WHEW NELLIE. You'd think we had prefaced the request with "We're gonna kidnap them" (like I'd WANT to do that, right?)

princessmofo's picture

That is exactly what I said. I have read the parenting plan and it states two consecutive weeks and we need to give her the dates. Not the locations, like she is insisting. I drafted the letter with the times and approx location. Dh has 50/50 with bm. She is now seeking full custody since she remarried. Dh has been an exemplary father and she has never asked this before. It was always verbal in past. She claims she is doing what's best for ss. But in truth she is just trying to control everything again.

GizmoBarnOwl's picture

I had a similar situation last year. We wanted to take the (s)kids camping, she said no... so we went anyway. Skids were so disapointed because mum said no! ... We had a great time, they were pissed off with BM NOT us! Win Win... Also day trip to the seaside the year before, DD and I went and had a great time with my friend and her neice...a lovely day without obnoxious skids! they again were angry with BM we had a brilliant day on the beach Wink win win..... go and have a your holiday! You'll love it Smile