DH giving up on SD
DH has aareally hard time over the holidays because BM won't let him see SD usually from before Thanksgiving to after New year's. I've asked DH a few times what he is getting SD10 for Christmas he keeps saying he will just take her shopping when he gets her next which probably won't be until January. SD was particularly bratty to him this year and said awfulathings about our house and refused to see him. She has said ue can pickpher up for breakfast or go to the movies and then take her home. DH is not willing to drive 6 hours round trip just towatch a amovie or have breakfast and then take her right home. He has not bought her a single thing for christmas. I take my cue from DH and we shop together for her. Because of that as of now she is getting no gifts. This is a little strange to be honest and he has never given up on her like this before. I wonder what is going through his head?
We decided to skip Christmas this year aside from giving a few gifts because we were not into it. DH often gets very depressed around christmas because SD does not want to see him. It's a holiday for kids and his lid wants nothing to do with him. I figure I would rather skip it that watch him mope.
He said "maybe we'll be more into christmas when we have kids." We're trying for a baby and my husband is very excited because he can have a child that won't be turned against him. He's excited to be able to raise aakid his way rather than be shut out by lying cheating BM. BM has turned SD into a mini BM that hates him as much as she does so my DH is disengaging from his own daughter!
Has anyone had their husband react this way? I really thought it would take until SD was a teen for him to disengage but she's 10 and got an attitude already. He gets no love or attention from her, just hate so he's disengaging.