Controlling BM and a rant
BM always sends SD12 with an assignment for when my DH has her. Things like DH must buy her new school clothes or supplies. She has a project that is due Monday and we have to buy all the supplies and help her with it and we find out about it Saturday morning. If it's not shopping or school related she will tell him what movie to take SD11 to and it can't be one that BM wants to take her to, or what restaurant to feed her at. She also calls SD11 all the time and SD11 will put her on speaker so we have to hear her snotty voice. She tells SD11 all these pushy things to tell us about what we should be doing. Oh I don't mean we, I mean DH because BM pretends like I don't exist. If she happens to hear my voice through speaker phone she will scoff in the ugliest way as if she is disgusted that I am in the presence of SD and I'm just some whore. We are married and have been together for 5 years and she acts as though I am some flavor or the week
My husband usually ignores all these assignments but then BM calls after we return SD to tell him he's a horrible father. BM is being controlling. DH only has 2 weekends a month and BM has to tell him what to do. It's like she is terrified of him being a Disney parent or of SD11 having too much fun.