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Update-Court was yesterday to determine if the SS's could come home

pixiedust10's picture

So we went to court yesterday, it was a day of mostly a bunch of mediating between the foster mom for SS10, the social worker for SS7, the dfcs supervisor on the case, crazy/attorney, FDH/attorney, and the GAL. Honestly not a lot got done because bottom feeder kept arguing with everyone. FDH could have gotten temporary custody of SS10 yesterday and have FDH take his psych eval and parenting class and all that while he had him, but nooooo…crazy would Not let that happen, her attorney even recommended it, but she said no, she wants an all day hearing and all that jazz, so it's scheduled for early March. She would RATHER have her kid in foster care than with a parent. What a b*$@#

SS7 will stay in the hospital. He's doing a little better. They are doing all kinds of tests, and they took him OFF one med (yay!) raised one, and lowered another (yay!) and are checking him all the time. He's participating and cooperative most of the time. They said he DOES NOT have Aspergers like she keeps claiming, no signs of Autism at ALL, and they aren't seeing any red flags for ADHD. He might have a mild case of it. Bottom Feeder kept arguing with the social worker while she was updating her, and all that crap, she wanted to talk to the doctors herself and the social worker said she didn't think that could happen. The social worker and her supervisor have said that they are going to work on getting an okay for FDH to have SS7's patient ID so he can call in and check on him, maybe some visitation, and that FDH should have as much access to SS7 as can happen! The social worker said she was NOT comfortable with this for Bottom Feeder and that she needed to have very limited visitation even by phone since SS7 seems to be doing better now.

We both got to meet SS10's foster mom. She's REALLY nice. They normally only take kids on a very short term basis, but will keep SS7 until March because he's so well behaved and stuff. They are taking him shopping this weekend and he will get some new shoes and clothes and they cut his hair a little (they can't change his appearance), he seems to be doing well. He does NOT want to talk about his mom. He doesn't ask about her either, but he talks about us and he flat out told the foster mom he wants to live with FDH!!!!! She showed us a pic of him that was really cute, and actually gave FDH her cell and said he can call as much as he'd like. She did NOT and will NOT be giving Bottom Feeder her number. Not sure when the next visitation will be, I think next week.

DFCS has made it pretty clear right now that she is not capable of caring for the kids. The only thing stopping FDH is the concern over the crap battery charge, so the attorney is going to try to get that pushed through fast and if he can't,try and subpoena and have that detective come to the hearing on the 8th…he won't have much to tell you know? They couldn't prove yes or no. The county knows they messed up so they are in cover ass mode, they don't want FDH to be a headline later over giving him the kids with that charge, so they are having him go to 8 hours of parenting I think and also having that psych eval, but everything is in his favor right now.

One more month, one more month..

Ok so right now on the CS, they go to get that changed in about two weeks, it's in a different court, so they have to change the original divorce order and blah blah blah. The attorney said to pay what he could since he's missed so much work because of all this, and I would guess if it's not accepted to stash it and document right????

Thanks for all the comments, prayers, good wishes, this site has been such a comfort. Bios are okay, they miss the SS's, but are hanging in there. No issues at school or with me.

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BSgoinon's picture

I can't believe she would rather have her kid in the system, than with their father. She is lower than a botto feeder. She is the shit that comes out of a bottom feeder. She is bottom feeder shit.

I will keep you all in my prayers. Good to hear SS7 is doing a little better. Any progress is PROGRESS and that is good.

pixiedust10's picture

She can't run the show everyday if they are with him. She won't get the attention, the money, the inside scoop on the kids. She can't decide what they do and don't have, how much medicine they can and can't take, she can't choose doctors, etc. Why should she let FDH do this when he (gasp_ left her????? It's not about them, it's about HER. The professionals have stated that she feels "as if she is the victim. If something has happened to the kids, it's happened to her. If they are subject to any victimization, so is she. She's just a poor, single mom doing what she needs to do, and FDH doesn't have a clue what the kids and her are really going through in life, he's just there when it's an emergency"...Crap. Since the divorce other than all these damn hospital trips, he's had them every alternating vacation time from school, a week or two (depending on her crap) in the summer, one night a week, and every other weekend. Everytime SS's have ever had to go to the hospital, he's been there. Every. Single. visitation. Almost every school conference that he's been able to be notified of, etc. Since she likes to try to have those things without his knowledge

sandy1234's picture

Good for all of you I am very glad to hear things are looking up. Praying for you guys and SSs!

"One more month, one more month"

^you sound like me