The mental acrobatics that my Dh performs to twist and turn sd's behavior into something acceptable are quite astounding.

He calls me on my way home from work after he has picked up the kids from daycare. Says that there was a big to-do at the daycare and he was there for over twenty minutes while it got sorted out. My first thought was, of coarse, oh god, which of the skids was it?. So I tentatively ask what was going on.

He starts with, "i am so happy that SD was on the periphery of it and not involved" so I think, man what did SS do now?.Dh then says, so I had to sit there for 20 minutes so the center director could talk to SS to see what he heard and saw (phew, wasnt SS either) He continues on to say that SD and another little girl were fighting (verbally, not physically) screaming and calling each other names and being nasty to each other. And that another little boy got in to argument and ended up calling the other girl a bitch.

I take a minute to process what he had just said, and think of how to phase this so as not to be accused to attacking his precious angel. "well, I would hardly call that SD being on the periphery and not being invlolved"....... "what do you mean, a boy called someone a bitch, what's that got to do with SD?"....... "to me it sounds like three kids were fighting and SD was one of them.... That sounds like she was in the middle of it to me, just because she wasn't the first one to start cursing, doesn't negate the fact that she was fighting with another kid."..... "well, yeah I guess, I didn't think of it like that".... (how the F else could you look at it?!?)

So I get home about ten minutes later, and she's just hanging around in the living room, like nothing. She starts messing around with BS, and Dh raises his voice and tells her to go find something to do, that she knows that hes not happy with her (apparently they spoke after we hung up). So she goes and watches tv all night. No punishment whatsoever.

As I was leaving to take them to school this morning, he calls to SD as she's getting to the door....."try not to get any little boys in trouble today" in a light, half joking tone. And he wonders why she's such a brat........