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peachymom's picture

So last week, DH went to pick up his tickets for SS7 Christmas concert. While he was there the kids where just going to lunch, so he asked to see SS. Well I guess SS told his mom that DH was at the school. BM called the school and told them that DH is to have no contact with SS at the school what so ever. We found that out cuz DH called the school to see if there were any tickets left so his parents could also go to the concert. And the sectratery had said that DH is not alwolled to see SS with out concent from BM. That is so not right, they have shared cusidy and gaudianship. Why do BM try to keep the kids from having any extra contact with their kids. BM is "allowed" to keep SS when ever she feels like it on the weekends. But if Dh wants to see SS durning the week it's a plain no. Even if while she's at work, and the SS is at a babysitterss. She even tried to get DH to pay for the sitter, but we said no, cuz we could watch him for the two hours afyer school for free. We just don't have the extra money. But she said that wouldn't work. it's just one more way for BM trying to make DH less of a dad. I told DH just to keep pushing to see his son, and go to the school, what can she really do. Nothing. Cuz of how the court order is, they have shared cusity, so as long as he's not taking SS off school proerty during school hour, or when it's not his visition take him, then everything is fine. it will just piss her off. oh well.


missangie1978's picture

What you need to do is take a copy of the court paperwork to the school so they can have it on file, than when BM says something that like that to the school again they will just tell her that they have paperwork stating that DH can be in contact with SS.

We had to go through this with daycare and school

AC's picture

We did the same thing...talked to the principal and explained to him the custody arrangement ordered by the court.

Anne Summers's picture

Your DH can go to school, school events, field trips, extracurricular activities, etc to see SS. As long as there is no court order stating otherwise then it is perfectly legal for DH (even DH's family, you, etc) to visit with SS. You even have the right to interact with SS when you see him in public. Smile

I suggest, like the others, you provide the school with a copy of DH's divorce/parenting plan orders. I also suggest that you guys try to find a state law (specific to your state) that plainly states that as long as there is no court order preventing DH from seeing SS at school (etc) then DH is allowed to visit.

Below is a copy of SC state law stating basically this...

The mother and father are the joint natural guardians of their minor children and are equally charged with the welfare and education of their minor children and the care and management of the estates of their minor children; and the mother and father have equal power, rights, and duties, and neither parent has any right paramount to the right of the other concerning the custody of the minor or the control of the services or the earnings of the minor or any other matter affecting the minor. Each parent, whether the custodial or noncustodial parent of the child, has equal access and the same right to obtain all educational records and medical records of their minor children and the right to participate in their children's school activities unless prohibited by order of the court. Neither parent shall forcibly take a child from the guardianship.

Hope that helps. Smile