Long Time SM, Long Time Shoddy Behavior From SK
Hello, I would like and value some opinions. Two "adult" step kids, 12+ years of inconsiderate, unpleasant behavior.
A wonderful husband who, like many other husbands mentioned on this site, only wants some peace and harmony.
There has been a trend over the years for the male stepson to arrive at Christmas with only a gift for his father,
nothing for me or my son. Visits from stepson where he will not direct any conversation to me. A history of general
unpleasantness. I tolerated his nonsense until three years ago, when after we (I shopped and shipped) gifts to him,
there was no acknowledgement of thank you for the gifts. The upshot was all out warfare from both the stepson and his
sister when I called him out on ungracious behavior. We moved past that, with apologies from the stepdaughter and continued passive-aggressive behavior from the stepson.
This last Christmas just gone, stepson ordered a gift online for my husband, no note, no salutation, which arrived
after Christmas. We had invited him for Christmas and he said he would let us know if he could come out, but never did. My husband called him on Christmas eve to see if he was coming, the short answer was no. I was not sorry, to be honest.
His birthday is coming up and I find myself rather disinterested in shopping, shipping and paying for a gift for him.
It is not the need or lack of a gift for me that is an issue, it is the lack of kindness and what I am viewing as hostile behavior that I am not willing to weather anymore. My bio son sent him a lovely gift for the holiday, no thank you yet. We sent him a generous gift, no thank you yet. What are the thoughts on this board?