Using child as pawn
Hi so I have been with my BF for over a year. We live together and have my SS every other week (not court appointed). However the BM is many words I'd love to say. She is narcissistic, mean, use SS as a pawn. Etc. Just today she told my bf he couldn't have his son because he's working out of town. He turned 2 in the beginning of feb and BM had him for his birthday. We were going to have a party this weekend and she said no we can't have him. There's no court papers saying bf has any custody rights, and we don't have money to get custody rights (they weren't married and in our state mother gets full custody if not married). She's also extremely mean to me. So bad I blocked her on all forums but she still has people creep on me. I am told I cannot "touch, hold, kiss, hug or do anything with HER son because I am not his mom, step mom, friend and never will be anything to him". I am engaged to bf and planning on spending the rest of my life with him. Every single week she finds some reason to fight with my bf and tell him he can't see his son. A couple weeks ago I told bfs grandma what size shoe SS wears and she told BM I knew and that was a huge blow up. She found a new number to text me off of saying mean things. Bf and BM haven't been together since before SS was born. Over 2 years. I've been with him over a year. This will not end. I am so frustrated and sick of it. Bf won't go to court to get this settled because we don't have the money to go. I don't know what else to do and don't want to be living under her rules every day of my fucking life.