SS wanting to move back in
This is my first blog ever, so that being said I'm obviously frustrated. Sorry for the length
I have 2 boys of my own 16 & 5. The 16 yr old is with me ft the 5 is 1/2. My boyfriend has 2 a 17 yr old boy and a 15 yr old girl who live out of state with the BM.
Boyfriend moved here Jan 08, we met in Feb and were together all the time. In April 08 his kids came to visit for a week and was extremely upset when they left. He moved back to his home town in May 08 to be with the kids. In July 08 he moved back with me bcz the kids didnt spend any time with him while he was there.
Oct 08 BM calls and says that my boyfriend needs to come get SS bcz SS was out of control drinking and skiping school. Nov 08 he flies there to get SS and drive back with him in SS truck. SS helps pack the truck and then runs away. boyfriend spends all day trying to get SS to come back with him but BM decides that SS can stay with her. 7th Dec 08 SS flies here to live with us. Within 1st week we are having problems with SS being disrespectful. I reached out to BM asking her for some support, not to talk bad about me to the kids, to have communication with me so we can work together. She refused. Jan 09 SS starts skipping school. Caught SS smoking in the house (not just cigs), he stole alcohol from the house and continued to be disrespectful. Boyfriend gave me no support and didnt stop SS from being disrespectful. Boyfriend and I start drinking and fighting all the time. SS and I fight all the time. Mar 09 SS drops out of school. SS tells his mom lies about me so now BM and boyfriend are fighting all the time too. May 09 we break up and he moves out of state. SS moves back with BM.
July 09 Boyfriend and I start working things out and he moves back here with the promise he would not allow SS to move back in and cause conflict again. SS finds out that we are back together and leaves a very nasty message on boyfriends voicemail calling us both every name in the book and refuses to talk to my boyfriend at all. Aug 09 SS is really acting out at BMs home and she kicks him out. SS calls my boyfriend and now my boyfriend wants to move SS back here. Today he is pressuring me to allow SS to move back. Said he will inforce rules this time and wont let SS be disrespectful. I cant do it.
I would never keep my boyfriend from his kids but my children and I dont deserve to go through that again.
Am I wrong to say NO?