My sister just got engaged. Like me, she has no children of her own, but she has been teaching kids all her life. She's great with kids. I don't work with kids, just deal with grownups who act like kids

Her fiance is a wonderful man, great sense of humor. I'm so happy for her. Her fiance has two daughters, age 9 and 12. He gets them EOWE.

The BM is living with her BF, who she had a baby with, surprise surprise. But from what I hear, she's not all that bad. But then again, I don't hear everything. Sis and I aren't super close, but maybe we'll get closer later on as she deals with married life.

My mom goes on about how involved my sister is with her fiance's daughters, while she was dating fiance, how great she is with the girls, she has been going to all their swim meets, gymnastics, whatever activities they do.

Needless to say, my mom and I don't see eye to eye on how I should act around SS16. But she at least acknowledges that my situation, which is living with SS16 full time, is night and day to my sister's situation. And my sister has not yet moved in with fiance, but she will be soon.

In a way, I already know my sister is going to be a better stepmom than myself. But I'm okay with that. Her SDs are much younger, and she only sees them EOWE.

I used to be a better stepmom to SS16. Now, we're both pretty much alienated. We tolerate each other.

I am now the last sister to be unmarried out of three daughters. I hesitated to tell SO about the engagement, I didn't want him to think the pressure was on now that both my sisters are recently married/engaged. I really am not ready to be married to a man with a kid who doesn't like me. SO and I will not have kids together, and I'm feeling a little to old to start having babies, I'm over 40, I know other women have kids at that age, but I'm not sure it's for me, so I really don't see the point in rushing into a marriage when I don't get kids out of the deal. Things have not been smooth, and I've had to educate SO on my expectations of being treated with respect.

Anyway, I'm excited for my sister and will be pinning ideas onto her pinterest board. My sister has wanted to be married for a long time, and she finally achieved this, she deserves it.