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OKCStep's picture

Does anyone else get disgusted with the bio-mom? And, your DH for ever being married, involved, and intimate with her? Bio-mom is a felon, disgusting, alcoholic, manipulating, liar and sometimes I can't help but be horribly disgusted with my DH for ever being with her. She is so horrible that she doesn't even have unsupervised visitation with her own kid. Of course, to hear her speak to her child, she is the best mom in the world and DH and I are liars and awful people.

I hope I am not the only one... because I feel awful about it.

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foxymama87's picture

You have no reason to feel awful and you are NOT alone!. I to have the same problem and wonder WTF was my fiance thinking when he decided to marry his ex and bare a child with her on top of it all. She's a crazy, self absorbed, lazy, hateful,person. A COMPLETE BITCH! Even HIS OWN PARENTS thought he was mad when he married her! That right there should have been a warning for him. But you know men...they are stupid and hard headed, they always have to learn the hard way.

Sorry you have to deal with such an awful person. But just know you are NOT alone. I think all of us on this site have a crazy Ex-Wife or In-laws to deal with

Many hugs to you! Smile

Anonymous_stepmom's picture

Yep, been there too. Actually tease him about it sometimes, like what the hell did you ever see in her? His response? I was drunk. lol You aren't alone.

Hogger's picture

My BF always says he was drunk when anyone teases him about marrying and breeding with a psycho you-know-what....There was not a person in his life who wanted him to marry this woman...they eloped. He keeps saying she wasn't that bad then....talk about being blind!

truebloodfreak's picture

You are not the only one! I'm a actually ashamed and embarrassed that I know a person like BM. Knowing that i will continue to some aspect of her n my lofe forever because me and SO have a child together..Disgust would be a huge understatmemt . If there is a word for beyond disgusted that would describe my feelings towards her. I'm actually going to post a blog with a grocery list of everything that she has done that makes her a horrible BM or "egg donor" because she doesn't deserve the term mother.

WeddedBliss.sofar's picture

OHHH yes - I am completely and utterly disgusted with the thought that my wonderful DH was ever married to such a dirty, alcoholic, sloth who has always dressed like a twelve year old boy. And some of the stuff he has told me just makes me so creeped out. Like, for instance, he told me that BM always had a nasty smell "down there". Now, every time I have to see her, it's like she has an imaginary "halo of filth" around her that only I can see.

There is no comparison between the two of us.

In defense of my DH, though.........his first wife was killed by a drunk driver when she was 8 1/2 months pregnant (baby boy died also), and my DH was extremely depressed and BM latched onto him within a month of first wife's death (as a "friend") - three years later they married. His family hated her and still does. They felt she married him for the life insurance money he received - and to this day, BM will say "I didn't even ask for any of the life insurance money when we divorced". DUH BM - that money was never ever yours.

Newstep's picture

I feel the same way!! I can't get over that my BF even dated her let alone married her. She is beyond trashy, liar,cheater, manipulator. I am also embaressed to be associated with her. Plus she is just ugly as can be. I don't see how he married her and then stayed married to her after she cheated on him over and over again makes me mad to think about it!!

OKCStep's picture

Well, how do I get past this? Last night we had to do the supervised visitation thing and I almost couldn't stand it! He started to complain about how awful she is and I just lost it... I told him he had no right to complain about it - he chose her - married her, stayed with her and had a kid with her!

I hate that my life revolves around some stupid, tabacco chewing (yes - she chews tabacco!), crazy lady. He won't parent effectively, because he is afraid the kid will tell his mommy about it. UGH!

It just really gets under my skin to have my life connected to someone so disgusting. I decided last night - I will NEVER go on another visitation again!

Bex_S's picture

God, yes. Even DH wonders WTF he was thinking breeding with that scum. His only explanation is his 2nd wife was so abusive he was left with no self esteem (or money). Anything seemed like a good relationship in comparison. By the time he realised that wasn't the case, she'd already trapped him and he didn't have the confidence to kick the bitch out when he should have done.