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SD officially went home on Tuesday morning to BM's. A few days prior to SD's departure, DH and I went through SD's clothing/shoes and made 4 piles. 

-Pile 1 - Save for SD's future visits, clothing that we knew 100% would fit and one pair of sneakers that were a little big we will see if fit at Christmas break

-Pile 2 - SD's clothes that fit her perfectly now, but won't fit next visit/weather appropriate to send with SD to BM's, plus one of her pairs of sneakers that fit perfect now

BM tried to get out of calling SD for her birthday

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BM messaged yesterday evening asking if she could call SD for a few minutes for her birthday (today). DH told her that she could call SD tomorrow evening, but unsure of what time yet and would get back to her. On our way back from the waterpark, DH messaged BM saying SD would call her very soon (5 pm our time, 8 pm BM's time). BM messaged back and SD called her within 60 seconds of BM's message back, rather tried calling her. BM did not answer, SD tried calling BM a second time, no answer.

Had no idea the Barbie movie was rated PG-13

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DH and I bought tickets for the Barbie movie this morning before SD was awake. Then while waiting in line for coffee I got on my Facebook and saw on one of my mom's Facebook pages them talking about taking 5-8 year olds to see the PG-13 Barbie movie. So we looked up the parental guide and were like, uh no. SD is just turning 7 next weekend and think the references are too old for her. 
 

Less than 2 weeks left of SD's summer visit

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and now suddenly the past two days, SD's sister has been blowing up SD's phone (the one we got her) this week after almost a complete month of silence. According to SD, the sister got grounded and her phone taken away by step dad so the sister hasn't messaged SD on her phone since June 20th and yesterday started audio messaging SD on BM's phone. Npw, SD's sister is sending many audio messages a day to SD even when SD hasn't responded. Today the sister messaged asking SD to play Roblox with her.

SD Phone Update

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We have been sticking by SD's phone sent by BM is turned off and in the closet with the rest of the stuff sent on the plane. SD has been allowed a couple times a week to use the phone we got her and really all she wants to do is play games which there is only 2 preloaded games (solitare and some block game) or talk to her sister. SD tried last week to talk to her sister, audio messaged her, sent emojis, and even tried calling her (after she asked us if that was okay).

Toxic FIL has been blocked

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I posted a while ago about how FIL had texted DH asking to see SD on BM's time. DH told him that he cannot force BM to let FIL see SD during BM's time and that there is enough drama with BM as FIL knows so he will not try to facilitate this for him. DH also let him know that on DH's time FIL is more than welcome to communicate with or see SD on his time and the door has always been open to do so. We found out between FIL (months later) and photos posted on social media that BM along with SD and SD's sister have seen not only FIL, but toxic BIL/BIL's fiance too.

Has anyone ever done a Civil Motions Day Hearing?

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Since both VA (where DH's rights to SD's sister were terminated) and the state BM currently lives in/SD's sister was born in were unsure of which state DH would need to file in regarding SD's sister who's birth certificate still has DH's name on it and she still has DH's last name, DH tried writing the judge of the case a lettter. Both legal counsel in both states warned that they could file for him in that state, but there is a risk it being thrown out to be filed in the other court.

SD's Therapist

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We finally sent the email to SD's therapist after yesterday's shennigans with BM. We had the email already drafted from two weeks ago, but were sitting on the wording, etc. The email contained the concern of SD calling DH by his first name at BM's so SD doesn't get in trouble at BM's, the information about SD/SD's sister believing that DH was also SD's sister's dad and how that was explained to SD, SD expressly asking us to please not tell BM so she doesn't get in trouble at BM's house, etc.

BM is pissed

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DH messaged BM and simply said "I forgot to mention, we got SD a phone when she is here for the summer and other breaks. The phone number is xxx-xxx-xxxx."

BM responds "what is wrong with her phone?"

DH responds that we wanted to get her a phone and are entitled to do so according to the CO.

BM is pissed and has sent several paragraphs of messages.

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