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NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

Totally did some snooping on SD's sisters Tik Tok since we learned it existed from SD's phone well I guess her sisters phone. 
 

First of all it is ridiculous a 7 year old even has access to Tik Tok, let alone their own account. The account is public and some other kid or perhaps adult posing as a kid is commenting "cute" on several of the videos. The music in majority of the videos is totally inappropriate like talking about strippers, hoes, gangsters, etc. SD is in 2 of the 29 videos since October 2021. One of the videos SD is saying don't record me and running away.

The lack of supervision isn't surprising, but worrisome. Debated about reporting the account since if you are under 13 the account is supposed to be private, etc. Even though SD's sister is not a part of our lives anymore it is worrying the amount of unrestricted and unsupervised access the child has and will only also be allowed for SD. 
 

CPS did call us back today and said since tomorrow is the first day the school will be open, they will reach out and see if anyone there has witnessed anything worrisome from either children. Then the team will meet and decide if they are going to investigate the case and should hear back from CPS tomorrow. If they don't investigate when we have reported an unrelated male spanking little girls, a mom telling their children she will need to feed them rat poisoning, etc. then they are failing at their job. 
 

Haven't been stressing about all this until later today since we knew everything was closed, but now that we know it is coming tomorrow and the drama that will follow has put us a bit on edge which led to my snooping. 

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CastleJJ's picture

There may be no drama at all if they don't open the case. CPS overlooks a lot of things and really only opens the most severe of cases. Don't be surprised if they do nothing. This is one of those "expect the worst, but hope for the best" situations. 

advice.only2's picture

So my dealings with CPS are they are understaffed and allow a large range of stuff that I would consider outside of the norm to be normal.  Also don't expect for your DH to be informed of anything.  When Spawn accused Ex-SF of SA, DH was never notified.  Instead he was told after the fact by Ex-SF who showed up on our doorstep telling DH none of it was true.  When DH reached out to CPS to find out why he the father was never notified.  They claimed that if he wanted to see the actual report he would need to travel out of town to their larger courthouse and the report would be heavily redacted to protect those involved.  So even though your DH reported it, they might not tell him anything.

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

has been keeping us in the loop. We will see now that a worker has been assigned to the case if that is going to change or not. I hope not because we live on the other side of the country.

Little savages's picture

It seems unlikely that a child could set up an account without an adult's help. Although it's not my preference, I get that being on social media is seen as fun for many under 13s and adults. In our home, SS12 spends minimum 9 hours on screen (gaming and watching social media) every single day. Most parents I guess would want to seriously think about cutting that back. But not SO.  As the world revolves round SS12, he needs to have even more enjoyment. Poor deluded child says he wants to have subscribers. Like he isn't needy enough with the actual family he lives with. SO is going to help SS12 set up a YouTube account and buy him a microphone so he can make videos about his games and post them. All from the comfort of our family living room. Isn't that soooo cute??!!! Makes me want to hurl. 

NotYourAverageStepMama's picture

BM's involvement in setting it all up to some extent. 

Yeah that would be a no go in our household for sure! Call us old fashioned, but we are well aware of what unfiltered access to the internet at a young age can bring. There are tons of predators online and it simply is not safe. I feel like because of COVID a lot of parents became a lot looser on their rules surrounding the internet which I understand to a point, but it will still all be monitored in our house. We would rather be viewed as being strict then the alternative that can happen. Plus we don't view internet notoriety as a priority whatsoever.