SD Update - BM, School, & Spring Break
DH messaged BM today to check in with her to make sure she was aware SD's flight departs at 7 am this Saturday. Since SD has only made 1 flight out of 4 flights on the day SD is supposed to fly to us and this is the first morning flight SD is getting on to us, DH is not leaving any chances for stupid excuses. Although, BM would still manage to give some if SD misses the flight. Anyways, BM is aware of the flight time, good, but then she has the AUDACITY to ask DH "before I forget please!!! go over her sight words repeatedly and practice upper and lower case letters." We have done nothing for years, but try and help SD over every break and before she was even in kindergarten on our visits to help her progress. We spent LOTS of money on tutoring 4 hours a week all last summer. Spent money on resources and we have been the ones advocating for SD's education. Just couldn't believe it.
Then, she says SD had a GREAT report card. Well, I don't see how that is when SD has regressed in 9 areas she knew last report card, only improved in 3 areas from last report card, and only got 100% on 24 out of 47 areas...Neither DH or I would use the word to describe that. After much continued frustration with SD's teacher we finally got out of her that: she is concerned about the regression SD has had in the last 9 weeks especially since more and more new material keeps getting added in, got the online login for the resources and programs used at school/to be used at home to help students, and as of right now SD is on track to continue on to first grade. Now, DH and I brought up our concern about regression and new material back in October and the teacher thought we were being crazy, but we shall see how the next 9 weeks go.
DH points out to BM there has been progress, but also the regression SD has had that both DH and the teacher are worried about. BM basically isn't worried about it because her test scores are coming out okay. DH used this as an opportunity to follow up with BM on the tutor SD was supposedly getting in October and BM would share information on. Supposedly SD goes to tutoring 2 times a week, but you know typical hasn't had time in almost 6 months to share any information about the tutor.
BM claims she will upload information about the tutor on the SD's profile on the CO app and other information she needs to update tonight. Well we will not be holding our breath, it has been 3 years of a pattern of BM not sharing information. Doesn't matter if you ask her nicely one time, doesn't matter if you don't ask for 6 months, and it doesn't matter if you ask a million times, BM will never readily share information UNLESS she is caught doing something against the CO then she overshares information, but still not the type she is supposed to share. The most frustrating part of it all is it isn't information we could get any other way.
SD finally texted back yesterday, almost 3 full weeks from when BM gave SD's number so DH "could better communicate" with SD. Quite convenient that it is a few days before SD comes here with the phone. It is quite obvious it is because BM wants to be able to communicate with SD on it when she is here, but she can wait the 19 days DH had to wait for a response. No return phone call to DH's calls either like BM said would happen.
Yes, I know a lot of this we need to let go of because we are so far away, but it is hard when very clearly we care more about SD's success than BM does. We also shared within 24 hours the reports from SD's summer every single report from her tutor. It is always the excuse of BM being busy, well the whole world is busy and 6 months to upload information on a tutor is just ridiculous. We WANT SD to move on to first grade, but scared for next year when this has been such a struggle again and a lot of it was review.