SD Tonsils Continued
So last night we heard back from SD's teacher in regards to asking if SD has complained in school about pain or had trouble eating, etc. SD's teacher's response:
"She has not complained to me about anything. She eats breakfast, lunch, and snack pretty well. She will occasionally ask to have things open f she needs help, but other than that no problems. I will keep a closer eye for anything and let you know if there are any issues that arise."
Hmm... well that is funny because BM claims SD has "constant throat pain" so bad that she "will refuse to eat."
Then we wake up this morning to 6 messages from BM. Saying that she 100% believes the tonsils are causing the recurring issues, she kept getting strep until hers were removed, she understands waiting on results, but removing tonsils now vs adulthood is a better option as they recover quicker. Plus a photo of SD's tonsils followed by "This is right now as you can clearly see if the swelling gets any worse we will be in an ER vs a doctors office."
Well, BM tonsil issues have not been found to be hereditary, SD has NEVER had strep, unless medical information was withheld, SD is 5 she will not be an adult next month, the results from the environmental allergy test is due in any day. Plus in the photo you can tell the tonsils are a little irritated but the tonsils are not even remotely close to touching.
We re-asked BM for medical documentation showing issues/concerns prior to the last two months, relayed what the teacher said, relayed the specialist's recommendation is solely due to BM's claims of SD at night, but that we are awaiting the results from the environmental allergy tests, how this is about SD's issues not BM's history.
"I'm waiting on tests. As for a teacher that she has only known a few weeks I wouldn't put much stock in that. I have 3 medical professionals who had heard her complaints. Verified what I have seen. Your not around her to know and are basically calling me a liar. It's offensive as I am putting her medical needs as top priority. I have 3 months of documentation. Still have to request paperwork from last year. I'm going to take her back in October which provides 4 months of consistent documentation. Hopefully receive 2020 documentation soon."
But wait, you claimed it has been ongoing for 3 years so where is 2019 documentation? Also, you said SD complains every day, but her teacher who she has had for a month now knows nothing of any of this or heard any complaints.
After responding to BM's message, BM says "Her well being is top priority as is my other daughter."
What does your other daughter have anything to do with SD's tonsil issues or DH at all anymore? Oh right, nothing.
To which after this is the 4th time in a row BM has made some comment about her other daughter so we said
"Your other daughter is 100% of your business so stop bringing her up to me when only SD is my business."
^Probably should not of even said anything, but 3 times she has been talking about her other daughter and DH has said nothing about it thinking if he did not give attention to it, it would stop, but clearly not so he addressed it this time.
So basically just waiting on the environmental allergy test results and waiting for documentation of it being a past issue. When we get results/medical paperwork from BM we will request the sleep study. We forgot this morning and don't want to just go back and forth with BM all day until there is more information. At this point we are almost thinking after the test results, additional documents, and sleep study telling BM, that DH does not agree that SD needs her tonsils out, but if BM thinks it will solve SD's issues then okay. Luckily tonsil surgery is not as invasive, but still risky. Also, the specialist was not at all concerned about this surgery and COVID risks. Then if SD has them out and the "problems" are not fixed, then clearly it was not her tonsils. Besides requesting a sleep study and the documents we have been waiting for, there doesn't seem like there is much to do. Getting involved with a lawyer will probably go no where since 3 doctors have agreed with BM to get them removed. Meanwhile to me it is quite interesting that SD is ONLY seeming to have these issues at BM"s home, but every time we bring it up she has a fit and says it is not her home. So yeah that is the update and frustrating as well.
I also sent the photo she sent to my mom and my mom said "seriously? with the annoyed emoji." My parents are not doctors, but they have 3 children, her brother got his tonsils removed and she works with children so getting her input is always helpful on something we think a certain way about, but there is the possibility we just lack experience and are wrong. On this my mom has confirmed the whole time that we are not crazy to think after 2 months of documentation that SD should have her tonsils removed.
**EDIT: Enlarged tonsils can be hereditary, but not tonsil issues such as strep, etc. are not.