School Paperwork Update and Question
So DH emailed back the school administrator asking what deems custody and educational rights according to their school to make sure SD's paperwork was correct. Turns out that DH IS supposed to be marked off as custody and since he wasn't was why DH could not see half of the information on SD's school app in regards to contact info, emergency contact, etc. So now DH can see all of SD's information. Since this unknown step dad lives with SD he is to be marked off as both custody and educational rights too. The good news is the administrator has now updated all SD's information to be correct so now DH also is listed on a few additional notices that he was not before because BM did not acknowledge DH's custody of SD for school.
In the mail two days ago now, we received SD's medical records from the one ENT had already confirmed that BM did remarry someone who is in the military and we know this based off the type of medical coverage BM has SD on. DH is supposed to and does have SD on his medical insurance per the CO, but BM put SD on her insurance over a year ago now, we had speculated it was to make it easier for her to have SD on the same insuance as her and her other daughter, plus to probably block out DH even further to access information on SD.
Also, SD's teacher moved the virtual parent teacher conference with DH because of a scheduling conflict and now DH's parent teacher conference is before BM's, so I am sure she will end up mad about that. Oh well, BM tried to seem like she was "including" DH in parent teacher conferences, by notifying him that SD's parent teacher conference is on Monday. Except, she did not try and see if DH was available for it or ask anything, so then DH made his own (which realistically he was planning on doing anyway because it is less drama that way).
Now the question is whether or not DH should say anything to BM about not checking him off as having custody of SD to further the documentation in the court approved app that she is constantly trying to box him out from accessing medical and educational information since this is the 3rd time we know of she has left him off of SD's paperwork and DH has to sent the CO, etc. to get access to her information. We are not planning on going to court anytime soon, but think it is good to have documentation in our back pocket if we ever do of all these attempts at PAS and trying to box DH out.