Need advice or insight, SD tonsils
So if anyone has read my blog from a couple weeks ago might of read about BM's concerns on SD's tonsils. To sum up a long story short BM messaged DH telling him she is concerned about SD's tonsils. That SD has had an ongoing issue for several years, but BM changed SD's doctor because BM did not feel the doctor was taking her seriously on the issue. BM also then relayed that she never once has mentioned this issue to DH because the doctors didn't take her seriously so she did not think it was anything to mention to him. I may also add that SD has never in the 3 years BM is saying has had this issue mentioned a sore throat, tonsils hurting, shown no signs of difficulty breathing, etc. Like that was the first mention or indication of any issues we have ever heard of for SD.
Today was SD's ENT appointment, it was her first and only appointment with the specialist. The specialist is recommending surgery removing SD's tonsils and the glands behind the tonsils. Now I did some research because it just seemed like after reading over the documents from the appointment that the doctor is recommending this because of BM"s testimony on SD snoring at night, having trouble breathing, having sore throat, coughing, and having the symptoms worse when swimming in a chlorine pool. Personally, I was shocked that off of that and one appointment the doctor is recommending surgery for a 5 year old.
According to Stanford Children's Health a child should be considered for surgery if
-"blockage severe enough to cause a lack of oxygen in the body and cardiopulmonary changes. The following may indicate the need for a tonsillectomy"
-"The child has a severe sore throat seven times in one year, or five in each of two years, or three in each of three years"
-"The child has a throat infection severe enough to cause an abscess, or an area of pus and swelling, behind the tonsils."
-"The child has a case of tonsillitis not helped by antibiotics."
-"The child's swollen tonsils and adenoids impair normal breathing."
Now DH and I obviously are not with SD as often for almost the last year because now on long distance schedule, but in those 3 years DH has been primary parent one year and then had SD every other week one year. In 3 years other than 1 time two years ago SD has not been to the doctor and diagnosed of a throat infection or infected tonsils, none of it. BM has also not provided information that is of the contrary. I have had asthma my whole life even been hospitalized for it, so I know A LOT about breathing issues and I have never witnessed any issues with breathing nor has any of SD's teachers said anything about it either. Again for almost a year now we have only seen SD maybe 10 weeks of it. However we did just see her and witnessed none of these issues then or had any complaints from SD about it. I was home with her the whole visit and I would say during her whole time with us she maybe coughed 10 times total.
So I don't know is this BM making a bigger deal about SD's tonsils and the doctor is just trying to make money and recommending surgery or what? I looked up this specialist and he has A LOT of bad reviews. Lots of reviews regarding tonsil removal surgery too post operation. Any advice or opinions would be great. The reason this post has a lot about "I" in it is because DH is at work and hasn't even seen the messages or results or anything yet. I get notified when BM messages in the app because it was easier for me to message the flight info since it is under my Alaska airlines account, etc. So yes I did do a bunch of work without my DH, but that is not because he doesn't want to or anything, he doesn't even know about the outcome of the appointment yet.
Maybe I/we are being assholes about SD's tonsils and there really is an issue. It is so hard to know though because in these 3 years that BM is claiming there are issues we have not witnessed any of that plus BM does like to blow things up and make issues out of things that are not actual issues.