Me and my big mouth
I talk to my mom usually every other day on the phone during the week. Yesterday, I was catching up with my mom and she was asking about SD. I told my mom that we were sending SD a couple Christmas gifts this year since it is the first year we are not going to see SD for Christmas break or a couple weeks before or after. Next thing you know my mom was like, OH! We want to send SD something for Christmas too! So I told her that she could, but to send it to our house and we will send it with what we are sending. My mom was like okay, I will do that by tomorrow so it makes it there in time to send!
I feel bad I told my mom she could because I did not have the heart to tell her no. So I talked to DH last night and told him I had no intentions of bombarding BM's home with Christmas gifts especially ones that are from people other than us. DH and I agreed that we will keep what my mom sends at our house for SD to open at our house over spring break and will send it back with SD. My mom already bought and sent me what she will be sending SD which luckily isn't large so is totally doable. So my mom and dad's feelings are not hurt, SD will be receiving the gift and have it at BMs, but we aren't doing what we wouldn't want BM doing.
I was kicking myself because I have purposefully not being telling my mom that we have been sending holiday cards to SD because I already knew she would want to do it too. I can't blame them and am so appreciative that they treat SD as if she was their bio grandchild, but ugh they can make it so hard sometimes.