Finally good news with SD and School
I had posted a few months ago about SD taking this state test in 2nd grade that if she failed as "at risk" then summer school was going to be recommended, but luckily she failed, but as "on track." If she failed taking it in 3rd grade it would be mandatory for her to attend summer school next summer and if she failed it at the end of summer school she would be retained. Summer school either this year or next would end up making DH miss time with SD. Well this year they made a provision allowing the students to retake the test before the end of the year and this time SD PASSED! So now she does not need to take the test next year and there is no possibility of summer school next summer either! This is excellent news for SD, but also good news for us because deviating away from the CO causes drama and issues with BM which we prefer to avoid whenever possible.
SD arrives two weeks from today. Same old drama and frustration with BM and scheduling phone calls. However, DD is thriving! She just turned 10 months less than a week ago and she is taking off walking with her walker. I have decided breastfeeding is not for the faint of heart, I am counting down to reaching a year to switch to only nursing to put her down at night and then try to switch to warm milk then too. She LOVES food so hopefully that makes the transition easier.
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Good for SD
That little girl seems like she's been thru a lot.
Yes and unfortunately it is
seeming like BM is already on to the next man. When we were on a call with SD this weekend it was 8 pm there and she said how she was waiting for *man's name* to come over who was all their friend. In being nosey I have seen BM post pictures in a video of a guy in a navy uniform from Mother's Day and SD has been talking about this new man friend more than once now, but 8 pm is pretty late for a male friend to be coming over IMO especially with two young girls at home.
This is good news. It
This is good news. It eliminates BM using her school as an excuse to mess w/ your summer. It also means SD won't be stuck w/ BM for summer school and that means grandma won't be doing her crappy job of babysitting.
what plans for fun do your have this summer? SD is going to be so happy to see how big your little one is growing!
Yes, exactly! It is so nice to know
a whole year ahead that it is not a concern or possibility for next summer.
So SD is going to camp, my parents are coming for 10 days so we are all taking off and not attending daycare or summer camp their whole trip, we are putting up an above ground pool, and we just decided yesterday that we are going to get bikes for everyone and bike trailer for DD to keep everyone active this summer. Yes, SD will be impressed for sure!
Surprise!
So, I'm wondering what changed. Did BM step up to her responsibilities? Unlikely. Did BM finally get her that tutor she's been talking about? That would imply some level of organisation on BM's behalf and she has hardly excelled on that front. Could it be that SD realised that this was important and made the extra effort? Why not?
In any case, what I like about this is that it is proof that she CAN when she WANTS TO. I'd be heaping praise on her to make her feel proud and to make her want to feel that way as often as possible.
We all need an ego boost from time to time...
Oh, 100% which is how DH and I have felt all along
it has never been that SD is not capable it is more a matter of being allowed to only put forth as much effort as she wanted to and that being acceptable to BM. We definitely do make sure to praise her and will do more so when she is here. Heck, we even praise when she does well on her summer packet here.
This is good news. I am sure
This is good news. I am sure that sd has to feel good about her test.
Nice way to kick off her coming for the summer
Enjoy!!!
Good news. A good thing for keeping BM in her place.
The rotating man/woman of the moment can F kids up pretty bad. It certainly did for my SS and his three younger spermidiot spawned half sibs by two other baby mamas. Nearly every SpermLand visitation, if SS even saw the Spermidiot, there was a new woman of the moment. Even the ones that the Spermidiot did not breed often brought a brood of prior relationship spawn with them. BM #2 brought a non joint prior breeding product with her when she and the Spermidiot hooked up, then went on to breed with at least one more ultimately abandoning her Spermidiot spawn with the SpermGrandHag to raise. BM#3 did not have prior spawn before breeding twice with the Spermidiot. She was shuffled off and also abandoned her two to be raised by the SpermGrandHag.
SS won the mom lottery and is the only one of the 4 who is a viable adult of quality. Any number of follow on females moved in with the Spermidiot bringing any number of unrelated broodlings with them. Spawn #2 wrote off their idiot father and had very little to do with him as a pre-teen over his never ending line of F-budies.
SS ran into his own enough is enough point when he was about 8yo when he was relegated to sleep on the floor when the squeeze of the moment brought a number of broodlings when the Spermidiot sneakily moved her and them in. SS called, complained about the sleeping on the floor while the GF's brood got rooms and beds. DW lost her mind over that and made about the only call she ever made to the SpermGrandHag who went ape shit on her own idiot son.
I am fully in support of keeping a noxious toxic X in their place. Hopefully SD's academic promotion will be another nail you and DH can use to keep BM contained.
I hope that your family all have a great summer this year and next with SD's visit.
Take care of you and enjoy that baby.