Dealing with a Narcissist Ex
So here is my latest issue. My exhusband is wanting to take my 14 yr old daughter to Mexico and I just have a bad feeling about all this. He already bought tickets and is telling me what hes doing and this trip is in January! This is just what he does. He will plan things and tell me hes doing expecting me to be ok with it. He is pushing me to sign and approve for her to get a passport. I definitely do not trust him. I'm just concerned abt them not being in the US and if something happened what do I do?! I have heard many things abt Mexico not being safe right now. The kids keep telling me its safe because its a resort but still. Theres an issue that is very real with human trafficking. We have been divorced for 6yrs and its nonstop drama.
Just a month ago he thought it was a good idea to take my daughter to Chicago to a BTS concert on my mothers day. We had to get lawyers involved and everything because he bought tickets and hotel already. I tried to make it better by trying to take her myself. In the end i agreed if he reimbursed me for everything I would let him take them on mothers day wknd to the concert in return for 4th of July. If I dont let them go he tells me I am not thinking abt the kids and I'm being selfish. Examples of things he would do are endless. Last year he wouldn't let me have my daughter on my New Years Eve because there was a typo that said New Years started on New Years even though we went by the schedule that said it began new years eve for years already. I was so frusterated i cried. I was waiting in the parking lot and never got her on that day. No one answered and the phones were off. He would send me endless emails abt 10 dollars that I needed to pay him due to meds or whatever because I am responsible for 23% of it. He would say I have 30days to pay for it. If I don't check the App that we are using to commuinicate court ordered he would send me endless emails how I need to respond in a timely manner. I am at my wits end and I don't know what to do. If I don't agree to getting her a passport or letting her go to Mexico right now can he go to court and try to fight it? It just seems like he keeps wanting to go to court to fight me for everything. Examples of that are endless also. He took me to court to imput my income. He also didn't want to pay for half the lunch tickets for school cuz he thinks that should be included in the child support. I get 600 a month for my daughter now that my son (now daughter) is over 18. Not even that much but of course he doesn't think he needs to pay anything. I have been researching and he is a total textbook Narcissist.
A part of me just does not want to deal with him throwing a tantrum and sending me tons of emails so i just let them go. The other part of me is like No More of this. Its a never ending cycle with him and I am having so much anxiety right now. On top of all this my son came out transgender in Jan and is on hormones and wants to change his name and gender on his birth certificate. Theres just too much going on right now. Is me approving a passport just gonna open the door for more problems? I don't know what to do!!