So the BM in our life is very in and out of SD18's life. Always has been. DH got full custody of SD when she was 8 years old. BM is a pillpopper, drunk, narcissistic bitch. To simply call her "trash" would suffice. What she put SD thru over her entire childhood would seriously blow your mind. She's never paid a dime towards anything for her, but has a lot to say on how she's been raised of course. Over the years she's spent many of SD's birthdays telling her over the phone (if she remembered it was her birthday) how she has some sort of deadly disease and won't live long and either tells SD which songs to play at her funeral or if she's feeling really low tells SD to not even worry about coming to her funeral...always on her birthday. She's most recently married or maybe just engaged..not sure of the status to her 2nd cousin. No I'm not lying. She's attempted to make me think she and DH were having an affair. She's sent him nude photos of herself, sent me photos of herself (thank God she was dressed..) Asked us for money, asked us to raise her 2 sons who she's since also lost custody of..It just goes on and on. She's just gross on every single level. For a one night stand, DH really hit this one out of the ballpark.

So anyway, she sent DH these crazy long text messages yesterday that he forwarded to me. Basically telling DH he should have never got custody of SD that he has completely ruined her, that she's probably having sex and doing drugs. It just goes on and on. One sentence she's blaming DH, the next she's calling SD just a bad seed and nothing can be done for her. Never ONCE since this has been going on has BM ever stepped up to try and help SD, only would rather point out all the things we could've done differently. She's accused DH of basically throwing her away.

She's 18. What can we do? We can't lock her up. She'll leave if she wants to leave. I told DH if she has all the answers she needs to finally step up as her mother and help her out. Especially if she thinks it'll be that easy. Let her deal with the mess.Between the 2 of them they've created a trainwreck.