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Runaway update...sort of

notsobrady's picture

So the latest on SD19 is that she's still working at the chicken plant, lives with 2 other girls in what DH describes as "a shit hole trailer", has a shared checking account with BFF and also shares a car with same BFF. BFF's fam co-signed on the car and I have no idea about car insurance..

We never hear from her whatsoever. (Thank you Jesus!)

A couple weeks ago GMA called DH very concerned that she had not heard from SD19 in 2 weeks. She would not return any phone calls and feared (obviously) the absolute worst. So DH made a handful of calls to her also with no reply. SD19 finally returned his call later in the evening. He basically told her to call GMA, she was very worried about her and that was the end of the conversation.

So fast forward to the other night, DH worked very late. Driving home was a nightmare, he has about a 45 minute commute with normal traffic. It was pouring down rain, he had been up since 3am and at this point it was after 8pm and he was on his way home. His commute time was well over an hour as there was a terrible accident on his way home so traffic was backed up and being rerouted. While on his way home GMA calls now worried because the area where the accident was, was of course near where SD19 works and GMA went into super worry mode thinking SD was now a part of this accident as she (again) made several phone calls to SD with no answer. So of course GMA calls DH who turns around..he's been rerouted away from the area to go back and specifically get as close to the accident as possible to see if SD's car is in the mix of cars that are involved. 

Long story short, it took DH THREE HOURS TO GET HOME. And guess what..SD's car was not involved.

They all continue to get sucked back into this kids world over and over and over.

She could care less. She never answers their calls and when she does she has zero interest in the communicating with them.

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advice.only2's picture

If GMA is so damn concerned she can do a welfare check with the police, or call the hospitals herself. Your DH needs to learn to say NO!

hereiam's picture

While I understand GMA's worry, SD is an adult, albeit a selfish, inconsiderate, ungrateful one. If GMA insists on worrying every time she doesn't get a response, she needs to leave your DH out it. SD is going to do, what SD is going to do and if something happens, GMA will find out eventually. Nothing for her to do, in the meantime, since SD won't stay in contact. Sad, but true.

Been there, done that with my youngest sister, for more years than I care to remember (she has her act together, now).

notsobrady's picture

Exactly! DH has even said himself, SD19 cares about SD19. Yup. Bottom line this is the absolute truth. And whats sad to me is its ALWAYS been this way. I saw this when our 2 families combined and were under one roof. She could care less about anyone elses feelings, personal property, etc. Yet each time something happened, she would ALWAYS ALWAYS be excused for her actions. It was ridiculous. And so now they're like Oh My God I can't believe she doesn't even care...good grief.