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BM must insert herself in everything!

notsobad's picture

My FIL had a heart attack a couple of weeks ago. He is 77 years old and we were not sure he was going to make it. He ended up having a quadruple bypass and is doing very well.

We were all waiting to see if FIL is going to have to have emergency surgery or if they can stabilize him. He was getting IV drugs but was still in a considerable amount of pain. Surgery would have been dangerous at that point but there might not have been a choice. SD(30) has told BM what's happening but didn't have a long conversation with her.

What does BM do? Offer her love and support? Tell SD that everything will be ok and that her family is there for her? Hell, I'd even take thoughts and prayers.

No, she texts SD and says you have to get a plumber immediately! Your toilet is overflowing! SD just moved into a new apartment and so she is freaking out, she doesn't know who to call, she's worried that the tenants below her will be flooded and she's upset about her Grandfather.

BM lives in Resort town and is here visiting SD but SD can't spend the day with her because her Grandfather has almost died! So BM has to remind SD who is more important! SD spent a few frantic minutes on the phone with BM and it turns out that the toilet is NOT flooding, it just won't flush! All that upset and axiety because BM can't flush the toilet. Oh and BM wanted to know when SD was going to be home. Could she maybe come home for an hour or so and then go back to the hospital?

Honestly, I know I should be used to it by now but the craziness that comes from this woman boggles my mind.

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beebeel's picture

Hopefully your SD realizes who her mom is at heart and cuts these visits short in the future. I can only handle my mom for a few days every couple of years because she is the same way. Everything is about her.

notsobad's picture

Honestly, I'm not sure. SS(28) has pretty much done that. He loves BM, and he should, but he limits his time with her. He flew in to be with the family and spent all his time at the hospital, with us or with Gma.

I think that SD feels she has to make up for SSs lack of interest. BM is very insecure and needs constant validation and needs to know that her kids love her more than anyone else. BM texts SD every. single. day! I know SD cuts her short sometimes but she still always repsonds. BM is quite proud of the fact that she and SD are sooooo close and brags to anyone and everyone that they are besties.