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I'm so sick of the SS5's manipulative ways

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I've been a member for a while here but had to change my username cause DH and I got into an fight few weeks ago, I opened my big mouth and told him how the other stepparents on ST understand me but he doesn't. He came on here and was able to find out which posts were mine. Although he promised not to come back on here again, I'm taking precautions. This is the space I come to vent, I don't need him knowing every negative thoughts I have toward the ssons.

Anyways, back to my vent.....
Over the past 18 months or so SS5 has this nasty habit of calling BM's name whenever he gets into trouble at our house. What started out as him calling her name only when he's being disciplined has turned into him doing it, I think just to annoy me, and I try not to let him notice that it bugs the h*ll out of me when he calls her name but sometimes it just shows regarless.

This morning I went into the boys room to kiss them goodmorning. SS4 kissed me, said good morning. When I went over to SS5, who was cuddling with DH, SS5 turned his head when I leaned down to give him a kiss and then he started saying "BM, BM, I want BM". I turned around, left and when to shower and get ready. While I was in the shower, SS5 kept knocking on the door, calling me. Once i got out, DH told him to say sorry for his behavior, which he did. But then on my way to drop them off at day care, SS5 started throwing SS4's pullups at me while I was driving. I asked him not too but he thought it was funny and threw his toy train toward me. I asked him again in a more stern voice to stop, that's when he started crying "BM, BM, I want to go to BM".
I"m so sick of putting up with that on a daily basis. I told DH he'll have to take his kids to daycare tomorrow. I don't care that it's a longer communte for him to do so. I know they're BM's kids and have the right to ask for her, but SS5 only pulls up this sh*t as a manipulative tool, in reality he doens't want to be with her and she also would go out of her way to avoid having the boys on her days.