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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Thu, 10/15/2015 - 7:38am

BM is a manipulative, lying bitch. Yeah, we know. Thanks for the heads up.

BM has started talking to BIL on the phone all the time, and made BIL believe that DH is paying based on a part time job, and not the full time salary that part time had turned into.

Now, the original temporary order was based on the part time, and the moment that changed, the order was changed to full time. So BIL made the comment that DH should be paying 20% of his salary, no doubt parroting BM, but what BM selectively didn't tell him is that based on that state's law, it's 20% of net, not gross. It just so happens that his net now matches the gross he was making part time, so BM could manipulate the numbers as she wishes.

We quickly disabused him of that notion and he told us what BM told him and we informed him he could see the support order if he wishes and we pulled up the state laws for him to see.

BM, it's been 5 years since we last dealt with your crazy ass, what the heck do you have to gain by pitting my husband and his brother against each other?

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Submitted by moeilijk on Thu, 10/15/2015 - 7:41am

It boggles my mind how much contact your BIL and MIL have with BM, and how they always, always, always take her side.

Seriously. I have to shake my head after reading the crap you go through to try to unboggle myself.

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Thu, 10/15/2015 - 7:49am

Sorry Moe! Don't hurt yourself with the shaking! This is actually the short version!

It all came about because BM bemoaned to BIL that she wants to quit her job and do her circus gig (wish I was kidding) full time but doesn't have enough money to support herself if she did and DH is a deadbeat for not paying what he's supposed to boohoo.

What she also chose to selectively not tell BIL is that DH is paying $100 extra of his own volition to her over what his actual percentage is, and the reason she hasn't taken him back to court is because she knows she will not only lose that, but IN state laws take into account subsequent children and she'd get even less.

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Thu, 10/15/2015 - 8:02am

Not even an ex-wife, Sally! A one and a half month fling gone wrong. And get this, he regularly visits her BY HIMSELF without his wife. His wife must be the most secure woman on the face of this planet.

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Submitted by Snowflake on Thu, 10/15/2015 - 8:22am

So, BIL visits your skids without his wife??? Wow.

I would have Your DH talk to BIL's current wife and have him chat about what an easy lay the ex was. Then have him casually put in how nice it is that she allows her Dh to visit without her.

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Thu, 10/15/2015 - 9:59am

This. Next time we're together, I am also going to casually mention how BM has no problem trying to get an attached man and what MIL said about her wiggling provocatively in front of BIL. That would sure get her attention.

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Submitted by WalkOnBy on Thu, 10/15/2015 - 8:22am

oh yeah - he's TOTALLY tapping that. Why else would a married man regularly visit a woman without his wife???

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Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Thu, 10/15/2015 - 9:54am

To bond with his nephew of course and step in where his little brother has failed at! What else could it be. *eyes rolling so hard in my head*

MIL did say that BM's been wiggling herself provocatively in front of BIL this past visit where they both went. So there's that.

SIL says BM is spoon nice for keeping them updated all the time. Blenheim. Emotional control.