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Don't Do It, Kid

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

Last night we had a party where the crazy disney mom and her violent and mean 6 year old son came. The whole time he was hitting or kicking disney mom's BF (who is our good friend) until he thought to try it on DH.

I should mention at this point, DH and I own a martial arts school and last night's party was to celebrate some of our students testing for their next rank. The BF's one of our instructors. The kid's mother is also one of our students.

When this kid came and punched DH while his back was turned (I guess to see if DH could "defend himself"), DH paused, turned around, and looked and him and said, "You really don't want to do that. I hit back. Can you take a punch?"

Now, at a family gathering, DH once pinned the 8 year old son of his cousin and then put him in the bathroom until his dad came to get him because the kid would not stop hitting him even after being told multiple times to stop. DH and his cousin are close, and his cousin actually made his kid apologize, so DH is serious about restraining even a child if they get physically out of line, because he believes this is an important lesson to learn before they get into the real world and get fucked up because they decided to lay their hands on the wrong person.

His mom is standing RIGHT there and I go up to her and am like, "XX, DH is serious, he'll teach *kid's name* a physical lesson if he has to." and then relayed the above story. The mom just brushes me off (she doesn't like me much but tries to pretend to be friendly since she has the hots for DH.)

Well, I warned ya. Don't blame me if your kid learns the hard way you don't lay your hands on another human being without expecting retaliation.

Given unspoken permission now by the body language and lack of action by his mother, this kid starts his full on assault of DH. It doesn't get very far. DH physically corners him and says in his best threatening voice, "*Kid's name" Don't you EVER lay your hands on me again. Do you understand?" Kid's scared now--he's apparently never gotten corrected for this. His mom is a bit too I guess, but finally DH gets the kid to apologize and promise never to hit him again (personally, I think he should have said for him to never hit another person again, but whatever.)

Today we saw our friend (the BF) and I started talking to him about it. He says his GF doesn't see this behavior, like she is literally blind to it unless someone says something, and he says it's not his place to say anything. I'm like, dude, you got sucker punched last week in the face by a 6 year old and then repeatedly assaulted last night by the same kid. What do you mean it's not your place to say anything?!?!?

SMH.

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Aeron's picture

Sure, she'll be blind to it until the kid is 14 or 16 and she can't/won't do something buy something kid wants and suddenly she is going to be his punching bag. And then it's going to be "I have No idea how this happened, he was Always such a sweet boy, he's never ever been violent before" and somehow the 40 people and the dozens of reports from schools or police telling her otherwise will still all be just misunderstandings.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

The sad part is, I've seen the pictures and videos of him as a baby (we're friends on FB) and he looks and acted and smiled and laughed innocently just like all the other cute and sweet babies. I know this is definitely a case of nurture screwing up an otherwise adorable little boy.

I think he's already starting to treat her like a punching bag, but as of now he's still small enough for her to not think its an issue.

Powerfamily's picture

They will be those parents on Dr Phil telling him they have NO IDEA why their little angel behaves like a thug.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

Well, she did say, "All he and every other kid on this planet needs is love." So yeah, Dr. Phil it is.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

You will probably see him on this site eventually I'm guessing.

She literally doesn't "see" it. I've never known anyone to be blind to what's happening in FRONT of them. Something happens and then someone tells you and you're in denial, fine, but man, when you see your kid all out assaulting people? That takes a special kind of rose-colored glasses.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

Yikes, sorry you're having a bad day. I think maybe decking a 6 year old would look really bad, especially from a grown man. It was enough to just physically corner him and stop him and then warn him, for now. But I think if the kid did anything more than just attempt to punch DH he would have physically pinned him.

Next time we're definitely going to say something more to the mom, we get it's not really the kid's fault that she never taught him it's not okay to hit anyone.

blueorblackink's picture

My BFF is a Disney mom. Because of this we rarely hang out.

But one day I was at her house and her 8 year old dd desperately wanted our attention. She kept screaming and hitting her mom, but her mother refused to stop adult time for her. Well little brat came up to me and said "if you don't play dolls with me right now I will hit you."

Oh hell no. I do not like children, I do not tolerate crap like this.

I looked at her with my meanest face and said " I am not your mother, I do not love you, I will hit you back."

That child always behaves when I am around....

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

Oh my god. She actually threatened you? And at 8 years old she's still screaming and hitting... I hope your BFF knows how much of a disservice she's doing her child.

BD tried hitting me once out of anger when she was about two, she hit me in the face and I tapped her (gently but with a firm look) right back on her arm. She looked at me horrified like, "HOW COULD YOU HIT ME, MOM?" and then I sat her down, apologized to her for "hitting" her, but asked if she understood why hitting hurts and why we don't hit other people--because if you hit someone, you better be prepared to have them hit you back. Then had her apologize, and we hugged it out.

Turns out my MIL was letting BD tap her on the face when BD wanted attention, unbeknownst to us. We put a stop to that shit REAL quick.