Child Support by BM
How many get child support from the BM ? And if she is suppose to pay a percentage of medical bills and doesn't. What have your spouses have to have done.
We are letting it build up to go back to court, and have it taken out of her check like the Child Support because we do not want to be in and out of court again and again, but it seems like this will be the pattern with her.
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How many get child support
How many get child support from the BM
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LMAO!!! I'm watching this
LMAO!!!
I'm watching this thread since my SO is deluded thinking that if he ever got custody of the kids, BM would be FORCED to pay child support. Silly fella.
Ha ha! Same thing about DH.
Ha ha! Same thing about DH. He has said in the past "If we had custody of YSD, BM would have to pay us CS." I laughed and laughed and laughed....
I said to DH #1 do you know
I said to DH #1 do you know how expensive it is to raise a teenage girl? #2 BM makes diddly squat next to you. So while you are paying her $950 a month, I'm sure you would be getting $95 a month from her.
She is actually forced to pay
She is actually forced to pay child support, it is taken out of her check each week, but she does not help with all the medical expenses that we do because of her neglect, for counseling and medication because her family member abused the kids.
That would be picking on her.
That would be picking on her. I mean, come on, she wants to do drugs instead of parent. You need to be supportive of BMs choices. Drugs, not hugs. }:)
Yeah this is basically what
Yeah this is basically what MIL told DH when he filed for CS for SD16.
MIL: "I can't believe you would do this to her, she has nothing"
... and just exactly who's fault IS it that BM1 has "nothing"??? and boy BM1 had zero problem going after DH for CS the minute SD16 was born. But whatever. We never saw a cent from her in 2 years.. oh wait there was the time she gave DH $5.00 and asked him to give it to SD16 like it was some kind of damn crown jewel or something. These women make me physically ill.
BMs are supposed to pay child
BMs are supposed to pay child support???? No way, I thought only dads have to.
This is how BM and hubby think deep down inside. When SD went back and forth between homes, he paid a ton of child support.
She has now lived with us for 3 years.....not a single dollar of help. And no help with braces.
There are days I am pissed about it. Hubby choice, not mine. Sigh....
we recently obtained full
we recently obtained full custody, bm ordered to pay support. dh didn't want to but I told him that if i'm expected to help contribute to his child, so is his mother. I told him if he didn't, he and I would have a major problem. I probably would have left him.
Yeah. My hubby has no problem
Yeah. My hubby has no problem with me working and contributing, but see no need for the BM to do it. Sigh....
Your ex's income has nothing
Your ex's income has nothing to do with you paying CS. It was fair for him to ask for CS for those 3 months.
Both parents should pay till the kid is at least 18.
Where did she go? The BM who
Where did she go? The BM who was unhappy paying 3 months of CS?
dumbass is ordered to. not
dumbass is ordered to. not that the homeless, jobless meth-addled whorebag ever will.
so yes, i was a BM who
so yes, i was a BM who paid....only for three months but i paid.
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As you should have.
Our BM paid. she did not like it either but she did.
Some CS Offices allow the CP
Some CS Offices allow the CP to turn in medical bills to them and they just add half to what is already due for CS. Doesn't mean that the NCP will actually PAY it (or at least not for a long time) but they are still on the hook for it.
I don't have any experience with this at all. In my situation, I just paid my DS's medical bills. I didn't get any CS from the BD so I never expected to get the medical either. My son is almost 25 and his deadbeat still has over $15K in back support to pay.
In my DH's situation, he got screwed in the CO. He paid medical insurance. BM had 6 months to give him the bills and he had 30 days to cough up half. Normally, that wouldn't be an issue except BM is a hypochondriac who would take the skids to the emergency rooms for practically nothing and would also run around getting 2nd and sometimes 3rd opinions! She would do things like insist that one would need a bone scan and cancer testing when she just had shin splints. Sickening. But he paid (minus the extras that BM would try to sneak in there).
We do get support it is from
We do get support it is from her check the state takes it out, she isnt happy and throws it up in the kids face all the time about being the mom and having to pay. She is suppose to pay an additional amount on the medical bills etc,but she doesn't, if it isnt forced out of her check she won't give us a dime. Went for years without any help at all, she got a nice paying job and went on her merry way buying all kinds of things for her husband and other child and bought the minimun for my SD's, she had the chance to help and wouldnt so it went to the state and now she has no choice, except to pay her part of the medical which she doesnt.
If the child support wasnt taken out of her check we would NEVER get anything.
She told the kids that it was my job as the Step mom to pay for stuff for the kids and that dad makes more than her so she doesnt have to pay and even told the kids she wouldnt be able to see them if she did pay.
My SO has full custody of
My SO has full custody of 3out of 4 skids. He gets nothing from BM. He even pays BM a token amoint each month for ysd as he 'earns more than BM and he doesnt want ysd to miss out on anything'
This just does my head in. He pays for everything for all 4 of his kids.
I ve learnt to keep my mouth closed on this subject. His money his stupid choice
17$ a month from BM1 for 3
17$ a month from BM1 for 3 teens. BM2 doesn't contribute anything but headaches.
Oh and neither are reliable
Oh and neither are reliable for medical.
I am a bm who pays and has
I am a bm who pays and has 49/51% custody. I am ordered to pay $550 a month based on an amount I haven't made in the 5 years since my exh and I split. Not all mom's skip out, or think they shouldn't have to pay. I am financially in the poor house, before I paid CS, I bought lunches, not only for when they were at my house, $600 in school supplies a year, $500 per kid in clothes etc... but exh wanted the money so he could do as he sees fit.
He spends it on himself and his girlfriends. My kids wear clothes too small or from the goodwill even though we both work and he receives that amount in support. I also am forced to pay 50/50 on medical expenses, which I have no problem doing and repeatedly asked exH to give me the receipts, in true BM form ExH decided to hold them for 5 YEARS and then lied to the court when he took me, to say that I refused to pay, when he hadn't provided even ONE receipt.
They took his side, my point is that BMs aren't always women. It needs to be a tad more fair for the paying side though. Weither it be a woman or a man paying, they need to take in consideration that person being able to live. The only way I make it is to put my gas/parking to go to work on my husband's credit card.
My question for you is
My question for you is this..
If you make less than the CS was calculated on now, then why have you not gone back to court and have it reduced?
And if you add CS at 550.00a month plus 600 in school supplies and 500 in clothes, that equals to 7700.00 a year. That is not that much. Raising a kid now a days is expensive. As a working BM, if that was all i had to give to raise my kid, I would be getting off easy.
My ex pay 6000.00 a year. To raise a kid. That is also getting off easy. But I don't want to spend my life fighting him. Sometimes I wish all I had to come up with is 6000.00 a year to raise a kid.
And, since you have 49% custody, you should be able to talk with you kids doctor. You have known for 5 years that you kid goes to the doctor. Just call and ask them for the billing information.
First off I have asked for a
First off I have asked for a reduction, the courts denied it because they state, I should be making more. I work for the government and they have laid us off a few days to weeks each year, they won't take that into consideration.
Secondly, my exH is also responsible for raising the children too so If I'm paying $550 he should be paying equal to that as well. I can tell you he isn't and that he has sent my children to school without money or food. He also isn't buying them clothes regularly, they have some of the same clothes I bought them 4 years ago.
So I am not complaining that I give that amount to my kids, if they were actually benefiting from it. The point is we didn't spend $1100 a month to take care of the kids when we were together. And if you aren't making that, you know you wouldn't be spending it. The courts aren't taking in consideration that the NCP as they like to call me has to live as well. I am not even talking about luxuries as I have NONE. I gave up everything to meet my obligations. I didn't even have Cable/TV for 3 1/2 years because I couldn't afford it, is it neccessary NO but I did it to pay.
Number 3, I know my kids go to the doctor, it is my ex's responsibility to provide me with the information on what HIS INSURANCE pays and the final bill. I can not run behind him and call the dr's, I think he may have taken them to. If the child goes to an afterhour clinic, he takes them, How do I know which one it is?
If it's that big of an issue for him getting medical expenses which are usually like $10 (my part) than he should be responsible enough to mail/fax/email or text a copy of the bill.
I have never asked him to remburse me for my child going to the doctor- EVER. That's part of having children. So to be taken to court for that instead of him just giving it to me, is UTTER BULLSHIT.