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Bm took my company car as her own

Newwoman's picture

I am so pissed right now i can barely breathe! For Christmas i told SO I wanted my dream jeep. We ordered every last detail of what I wanted. It was delivered last week. Dh bought it as a company car for tax purposes but this is MY JEEP!!! Bm came in this morning and asked for the keys to the company jeep. I told her it was my company car and she said not anymore. I refused to give her the keys so she had it towed to a dealership to get rekeyed and then this afternoon she came in and fired me. She literally fired me. She drove up in my jeep! I told her oh well because I knew SO would have my back and then bm called the police and had me escorted from the property. When SO came and got me he refused to fight bm and told me I shouldn't have trouble finding another job and that hes sorry about the jeep but bm said she is keeping it. I told him to buy me one with his money and he said no. I am so livid. I told him if he doesn't file for divorce I will leave and he tried to explain and then he got mad and said he wasn't giving up his company for me and I could go. I got my kids and we are staying with family tonight. I'm thinking of staying in one of the company rentals until SO comes to his senses but I'm afraid bm will just walk in and I might mistake her for an intruder and shoot her. I wonder how much trouble i will get into? It's night and dark and she wasn't expected. Lol Bang Bang B!tch!!

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twoviewpoints's picture

She isn't that stupid. She will just call police and have you removed, perhaps arrested for breaking and entering. Then when you get bailed out, you can try to collect your kids from protective children's services.

IslandGal's picture

Awww... you must be so shattered. Being a mistress is hard yakker.

Maybe you could find a job as an escort..at least you'd be free of bm.

dysfunctionally_blended's picture

Wait is this for real? There is so much spoiled and wanna-be kept girl syndrome here it was hard to read.

Sorry OP, if you want to play with the big girls you have to wear big girl pants. Time to put up or shut up. Your SO had made it clear that you are not worth the fight.

Get a job and take care of yourself. Buy your own car, own apartment, live your own life. This guys wife appears to have her shit together which is why she doesn't need to divorce him.

Smart woman, ball is in her court. Or maybe I should say Jeep is in her court Smile

SonOfABrisketMaker's picture

Cut your losses with this guy. You said before he's a multi millionaire and he refuses to buy you a car. He let his wife take something of yours. Walk away with your dignity.

Disneyfan's picture

His wife didn't take anything of hers. The BF used money from BM's company to buy the OP a car.

notsobad's picture

“Walk away with your dignity.”

That boat has sailed.

Indigo's picture

Truly, this sounds horrible. Losing your home, your job, your car, your relationship, your perception of the future --- that's a freakin' amazing firebomb-implosion of a life.

Be smart & keep only that which you have clear title to and nothing purchased with corporate funds as "gifts." I would avoid the possibility of BM taking you to court over "company-funded" furniture/beds/household items. BM could try to push a case of 'misappropriated funds,' 'misuse of company credit cards,' or 'corporate theft' against you. SO will throw you to the wolves and let you take the fall for his theft --- if you are not careful.

BM appears to be repossessing the trappings of your life. I'm sorry that SO was such a hollow man. I feel badly for your girls.

HogwartsIsHome's picture

I haven't read any of your other posts so I'm unaware of the background.

But seriously, cut your losses and run. I can understand him not wanting to lose his company for you. You need to find somebody who will be utterly devoted to you - or better yet, utterly devoted yourself to you.

You must be feeling utterly shit right now. As somebody upthread said, you've lost your home, job, relationship.

It sounds like you need to start putting you first.

Also in the future, definitely don't get involved with a married person until they're divorce.

I strongly believe I saved myself a lot of heartache by waiting a good while after the divorce came through before getting into a relationship with SO.

Acratopotes's picture

I'm laughing way to much to post anything constructive....

we all told you to dump him but NO you do not want to, this is your mess not BM's... she paid for that car, thus it's her car.....
She use to pay your salary and you did not follow the policy of respecting the boss, thus you got fired....

The only thing you can do is go to the police and report your male boss for sexual harassment, nail his ass and demand a pay out

notsobad's picture

YES!

Do this! Report him for sexual harassment and demand whatever the Jeep is worth as a payout!

Acratopotes's picture

:jawdrop: only the jeep, hell NO..... he harassed her for months if not years...

she should demand the Jeep, her custom designed Jeep, One of those company rentals to be transferred into her name and a cash payout equivalent to 5 years salary...... lost of income and all off that....

see this is the only way she can get BM back for being a bitch, after the settlement BM will be bankrupt, then she can buy the company on Auction and she and DH can run it together without BM, BM's company can now be her company and DH will not loose anything... he simply remains working there... for her..... till she appoint a new young sexy lady

Indigo's picture

Okay, I was trying to run straight earlier w/OP because she reminded me of folks I've known. Figured she'd have plenty of "I told you so's" on her horizon.

The sexual harrassement angle, I did not think of .... I was thinking of OP suing BF for breach of verbal & physical contract. (OK, I had to go there.)

Acratopotes's picture

I don;t think she's going to win on that.. verbal contract thing....

He's legally married to BM, working at BM's company she got from her parents... he's simply an employee there and had no authority doing this, BM can sack him as well lol.....

breaching of Physical contract... nah she's a mistress lol, with no money she can't afford a lawyer and will get nowhere..

I'm sorry call me stupid but seeing every one is on the sexual harassment wagon why not?

Disneyfan's picture

Please tell me you all are joking about the sexual harassment. It's still early so I may be missing the sarcasm in these responses.

Indigo's picture

Disney - we're not trying to hijack the thread w/sexual harassement comments. OP's life has apparently been diverted because of a man in a position of power whom she chose to create a life. Yeah, live an "alternative/almost married" lifestyle. ..

I was suggesting that verbal contracts should be enforceable. I'm not Judge Judy.

justmakingthebest's picture

Ok, look, I get it. You are in love (I hope) with a man who is separated but still married. You guys live together and it is no secret. Ex is primary shareholder in the company that all 3 of you work for. This is sticky.

If you want to stay with this man there is only one thing that you can do- Leave the job. I know that you love what you do but at this point if I was your man I would drop you so fast your head would spin. You are creating so much drama it isn't even funny. Don't rely on a man to take care of you and buy you cars- be classier than that please- for all of us 2nd wives. Your behavior is that of a spoiled teenager. Just stop.

Be with the man if you want but support yourself. Don't be the chick who got where she is on her knees, be the woman your kids can look up to. Once you are separated from the day to day between those two you might find out that you don't even really love (or like) the man. Or, you might find out he is more wonderful than you gave him credit for since all you are doing now is causing drama and nagging.

Snowflake's picture

IT doesn't really sound like there is anything you can do OP. It sounds like your BF broke up with you, and that now you are on your own. Unfortunately it is time to move on.

I can understand that you are angry and hurt. But at this time you really need to be focusing on getting a new job and a place to live.

hereiam's picture

You were being played all along by these two and now it has blown up. Move on, find yourself a real man.

ESMOD's picture

You now know what your position was. You were the side-piece. He has not intention of ever promoting you... in fact, will likely move on to a less needy side-piece.

Next time, you may not want to fish in the company pool... especially when your target species is already married to someone else with power over said pool.

BTW.. no one likes a cheater.... it won't gain you much sympathy here.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

What I'm seeing. Your SO isn't going to fight for you. So what are you getting from this? I'm not going to say he's leading you on, because maybe he really is infatuated, and I realize in your last post that both BM and your SO have moved on and are staying together for "financial reasons." But here's the deal... If he's not going to fight for you, and stand up for you and if he's not in the process of divorce just because of money... He doesn't love you enough for this relationship to continue... YOU deserve someone that will be just yours, not someone that if they died tomorrow, would leave you completely without because it would go to the legal wife...

Financial reasons aren't a good reason to stay married, if they decided to resume their relationship, for any reason, you'd be left ditched and written off as a mistress. That's not fair to you. YOU should hold yourself higher than that and see your own worth.

I'm not going to say you were a mistress, but BM literally has the business held over you and SO's head. The marriage may just be on paper, but that paper gives her control over your SO that you simply don't have. And from what I've read, you don't have the emotional partnership that you and your SO need to actually stand together.

So walk away from this. YOU deserve better. Find someone who's not "staying married for financial reasons." because if he doesn't have your back, then there's more reason than that. And you shouldn't have to live like that.

moving_on_again's picture

What kind of idiot buys his side piece a company car within the company he owns with his wife? Good philanderers know you keep that outside of the marriage.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Déjà vu. This happened to another poster last year. BM and her HUSBAND owned a business together.

OP, your "SO" is using you. BM is perfectly within her rights to do what she did. You need to move on with your life.

Dontfeedthetrolls's picture

Can I add has anyone noticed that OP is silent now?

Dontfeedthetrolls's picture

Oh no.

She loves the guy and surly he's going to come around and rescue her and make it all better. She's not a side piece of action. She matters don't you know.

moving_on_again's picture

Happens to all the juicy stories. Never to be heard from again.

I have to say, I hand it to that BM. I mean, not only is the car legitimately hers, I would have done the same damn thing if I saw my idiot husband buying an expensive custom car for his side piece, even if we weren't still together. If side piece wants some respect, earn it. Earn money and buy your own damn car.

Cooooookies's picture

So you dated a married man and are surprised that his WIFE took her jeep from her company...bought by her husband?!!?!??

I'm rolling my eyes so hard I might go blind...