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Five weeks of this

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The skids are here for 5 weeks straight. It's now day 5 and I'm utterly depressed. It's so much easier to deal with knowing that I only have a week before they are at their mom's for a week. I can take a breath and think that it'll be over soon. This isn't new though. We've had the skids full-time in the past for over a year, but it's so hard to muster up the mental energy to do any stint over a week again. I'm just so over dealing with the skids, SS is particular, BM, and DH.

So far I've been annoyed by the following:
1) The skids were dropped off a day early. We found out 15 minutes before they showed up with all their stuff at our door.

2) DS got a nasty viral infection and for the past 5 days I've felt like a single parent with a sick child because DH is too busy entertaining and dealing with stupid SS shenanigans. I'm already effing home all day with a sick child, but DH spends his evenings and weekend with SS.

3) SS is refusing to eat dinner at every meal. My cooking apparently makes him want to barf. But, DH is fine with him going out to buy cinnamon buns and cookies for his meals. And, when he does sit at the dinner table, he eats nothing. This only makes me want to make dinners that I know he won't eat (which isn't hard because he eats a total of like three foods, none that are healthy)

4) DH almost does it right - He tells SS that if he's too sick for dinner then he can take a shower and then go to bed with no more screen time. SS defies him and plays video games. In order to not get in trouble, SS makes stupid excuses and cries. So, no repercussions from DH, just a speech. This is the theme throughout the past 5 days. So, instead of getting a husband that helps me with a sick toddler, I get one that spends hours disciplining, then placating to the neediness of a near 14 year old.

5) No hot water for my shower! SD takes ridiculously long showers even though we repeatedly tell her not too. It is not subjective either. When visiting the grandparents, we warned them that SD uses a lot of water and they said that they had never ever run out of hot water (they've lived in the home for 30 years with quite a few adults living there at a time), so there would be no issue. But, of course, she was the only one to shower and she used up all the hot water, so DH couldn't shower. You would think that he would do something about this, but no, it continues.

6) DH's phone addiction. He says he's not addicted, but he's been told at work that he needs to stop using his phone. He's attempted to not have his phone with him during dinner, but can't do it. He is always looking down at his phone instead of helping me. So, I get a needy toddler asking me for things and to play while I'm trying to make dinner, clean, paint, whatever and DH is on his butt completely engrossed in his phone instead of spending time with his child.

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Acratopotes's picture

Hang in there lol... some pointers to make life easy on you...

Cook what you want, do not cater for the brats, either they eat your food or plain sandwiches, GEt it though DH's head that there will be no snacks that's unhealthy, rather a bowl of fruit they can have. Make it clear, if DH proceeds spending the house hold money on his children you will stop contributing anything towards house hold expenses. If you have separate finances, make sure not a dime of your money goes to their bad eating habits.

Warm showers, start showering way before SD and bath DS as well... who cares if SD use all the warm water and SS and DH have to take cold showers, you had your warm shower.... alternatively put a times on the shower, set it and lock it... SD will not be able to change it, she's simply doing this to piss you off, don't let it get to you, be strong...

DH's phone addiction, new rule, no phone at the dinner table.... it's should be left in a different room, the person with a phone at the dinner table will not get to eat, or will be cleaning afterwards, take a stand on this, I would simply take the phone away from him and say, now it's dinner time, time for you to chat with your family, you can get your phone back after you've helped clean the kitchen... what is he going to do? Punch you.. call the police, scream at you.. easy, you just lost your phone privileges DH, if you act like a bratty teen you will be treated as such.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

Acra, you may be one of my favorite people. LMAO

I like the timer on the shower! I was going to say, just give her five minutes and then go shut off the water main... But this is probably easier and better. LOL

With the phone... If the bill is in your name, you can set controls on when service and such does and does not work. Smile

Acratopotes's picture

I'm simply raised this way lol, My Dad spoke once ... if you did not listen your ass would burn....yes people that's allowed on Mars....

I've installed a timer in the shower normal garden one... bought it cause the gardener will leave the water running while snoozing off, thus I needed something to stop it, then after about a month I decided, good.. install it in the shower, with a sealed nuzzel over it, set on 10min....
I have to set it before any child takes a shower or there will be no water... bit of work, I don't care, I'm paying the bill

Acratopotes's picture

yes move here........

we can get together and have a view lol...... but you have to bring your skids with or we will have no fun messing with them, heck leave them, plenty of skids on Mars with Disney Dads.

ProbablyAlreadyInsane's picture

I don't know if I could actually leave the skids. lol... The emergency order is with the judge being looked over today. So they'll be there! Which means we can have some fun!

Mila851's picture

I have literally just shivered at the concept of 5 weeks straight with the obnoxious, lazy behaviour of the skids! You deserve a medal and some gin. Good luck x