OMG now I have heard everything!!!
SO and I have been very much pushing SD to get her college degree after HS. We have always stressed getting good grades and she loses privileges if her grades are bad. BM has been against college since we were for college. She has made big freaking deals about how college is not for everyone SD will be fine without a college education. Gone so far as to tell her that she doesn't have to go if she doesn't want to just to undermine SO. SD failed miserably her first year of HS she was averaging about 1.6 GPA all because she was being lazy. She is a very smart kid but when you have two drastically different sets of rules in 2 households I could see how it would be easy to screw up.
Her BM babied her and coddled her and we were hard on her and expected her to get good grades. She finished out the year with a 2.0 which was a slight improvement but not near her potential. She starts this school year in a couple of days. She is determined and focused and seems to want to do better. She seems really excited and happy. SO and I took her to dinner to talk about the new year and other things and we had a great time.
So he drops her off at BM's this morning and tries to make a quick getaway after the last time LOL. BM wants to talk about SD's college plans :? :? Now she is all for SD going to college. He brushed her off and said he had to get to work. She is a sophomore so its not like timing is critical plus she has been undermining him for years about college. So he thought it was strange.
Well his other daughter texted him a heads up this morning. She said her mom thinks she can continue to collect CS if SD goes to college. I just had to laugh. First of all we are in CA so CS ends at 18, HS graduate, or if the child emancipates. Only in certain circumstances can it be extended such as special needs child or handicap. The most she can do is take SO to court to ask for CS while SD goes to college which means SD would live with her and SD would HAVE to go to college!!!
I mean it could happen and hell if it meant SD went to college it wouldn't be so bad. But being that she hasn't worked the entire time since the divorce and is living off CS and is only requesting it to continue to live off CS I just don't see a judge granting it.
I just can't believe this woman what a worthless POS.
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Just be glad you're not in
Just be glad you're not in New York where the BM CAN drag out community college for four years and collect CS beyond age 21.
In my case, BM has a cushy, creampuff CPS/Foster supervisor job. 35 hours a week, full benefits and a 7 minute commute. Makes as much $$ as I do, is remarried to a guy almost at six figures and Chef (biodad) makes about 32K a year.
That 1,000 a month in CS is purely for vacation money in her case. But she won't give up her vacay money without a fight and fully intends to see that each skid goes to college for four years at age 21 so she can extend the gravy train to the max.
The other day, the BM was bragging about going to the opera for the first time ever and wanted to know who would go with her to the Met. She routinely takes skids friends on vacay (fly down to florida) courtesy of the CS money.
I never thought I would be so
I never thought I would be so happy to live in a state with so few college grads. I used to shake my head in shame at low we rank for quality of life issues, including education. Now that I know about CS, lazy bms, and other state guidelines for CS, I'm counting my lucky stars that we don't have to fund bm's lifestyle once the kids are adults.
I agree with exploiting the stupid though and encourage the kid to excel. Just don't ever put it in writing just in case she uses that as proof that you guys agreed to continue cs throughout college.