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Psychical confrontation with drunken BM

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Submitted by newbiestepmom25 on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 2:21pm

I haven't blogged in a few days because some crap went down with BM1 and I needed time to recharge before I could vent it out.

Thursday night SS5 had a performance at pre-school. DH was working so I took SS5 alone. After the performance I drove home and saw a pregnant BM1 from the looks of it she is either 5 or 6 months. She was banging on my house door drunk and cursing. I told SS5 to stay in the car with the baby. I asked BM several times to leave.

ME: You need to leave. Who dropped you off?
BM: Shut up b*tch. I wanna see my kid
ME: OMG are you drunk
BM: mind your own damn business
ME: If you don't leave I am calling the cops
BM: FUCK YOU. I FUCKIN HATE YOU! (Starts crying)
ME: *calling 911 and speaking to operator*
BM: *stumbling towards the street*

I ran after her and pulled her to the curb while she is trying to slap me off. She starts hitting me and trying to turn toward the street. I am trying my best to stop her from running into the street and getting hit by a car. I don't hit her back because she is pregnant. 10 minutes later the police arrive and I say I want to press charges. They take her away crying and screaming.

I don't feel the way you would think I would feel. I'm not mad at BM. I actually feel bad for her. I feel bad for her unborn child. If she is drinking and doing drugs now how long through the pregnancy has she been doing this. She told us she found out she was pregnant but it looks like she has known for a while and has been too embarrassed to tell the truth. She is not a good mom but I have never seen her in such bad shape. I honestly think she needs help. I have filed for a PO and I have pressed charges. I'm not sure if she got bailed out yet or not but I hope she didn't because she needs to sober up. I really want her to get help and be a better person her unborn baby does not deserve this and neither does SS5. I actually cried for BM because I feel bad for her. I know it’s crazy and it’s her fault but I’m not mad and I don't hate her I am sad for her. She could end up getting her baby taken away if she doesn’t shape up real soon. It’s sad to think about. Idk I can’t even explain to myself what I am feeling right now.

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 2:28pm

I agree that she needs help and hopefully a judge will too, for her sake and those of her kids.

Hopefully ss doesn't live with her?

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Submitted by newbiestepmom25 on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 2:47pm

I really hope someone post something funny today so I can stop going back and forth in my mind about this situation.

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 2:50pm

I feel bad for the baby. Years ago before I met DH, BM used to show up at his door drunk, pregnant with her bf's baby and begging for him to go buy her beer. He said she did this many times during that pregnancy. He would call her parents to come and get her. That child is now 9 years old and because BM drank and did drugs throughout her pregnancy, she has many learning disabilities.

Hopefully that child will be taken away from her and be placed with someone that can care for it.

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Submitted by MotherTrucker on Mon, 04/29/2013 - 3:17pm

I know you feel sad, but there is a reason that they take children from people like that. That poor baby deserves to have a chance and it doesn't sound like they will get it with BM. She needs help.