Did a lot of thinking today about how since I've known stepdaughter she's tried to dissuade me into thinking ill thoughts of my husband - her father.
I'd like some thoughts on this is you all have some time.
At various times she's tried to tell me how horrible my DH's temper is and it's only a matter of time before he blows up on me..it's inevitable, she says. He's NEVER blown up at me like I've seen him blow up at her..OR her waste of skin mother.
She's tried to bring up 'cute' stories of her mother and father in front of me - as to which DH has shut her up.
She got confronted on her stealing here, as to which she turned it all on me and told me my husband was miserable with me and couldn't stand me or my daughter..said he only stayed with me because he just didn't want to be alone. Said he told her it was his biggest fear to be alone and he just suffers in silence with me. Said he found my daughter to be a pain in the ass and he talks about her all the time.
She's told me he can't control himself with women and he has cheated numerous times on her mother..even went as far as to tell me that his ex girlfriend was stalking him with emails and texts..as to which I found out that NONE of that was true.
She has done things such as sit in his lap..lays her head on his shoulder like she's a small child..she's 20! She'll tell him how cute he is...lay SUCH guilt trips on him by snapping at him then walking away like a 2 year old...calls him the dreaded "DADDEE" as to which you want to pull your own teeth.
I have no idea who this girl is..but I know WHAT she is...
She's a jealous raving lunatic. She's possessive of her father and would stoop to anything to show it.
This is the oddest relationship I have ever seen in my life. I know a child loves their parent but what she does I sure would not call love.
How can a child love their parent when they try to sabotage their parent's marriage?
Am I missing something here? Is it normal for a man's daughter to go to these lengths - yet say they love their father?
I will not compete for my husband's affection or attention with someone like this..these actions would be seen in a jealous wife or girlfriend. Not a daughter. And I've told DH that. Something is wrong with this girl to act out in the ways she does.
It's like she knows no other way. Her mother is EXACTLY the same way and this little trite picked it up honest. She's extremely jealous of me being with her exhusband and can't stand me. So her and her jealous daughter feed off one another to try to step in our marriage.
I'm going to have another talk with DH and make it plain I will NOT allow that shit in this marriage. By either one. A spouse's love is SO different than a child..I will not have that kind of dysfunction in this house.