And in BIG trouble with DH and I - but she doesn't know it yet.

SD14 can't seem to stay away from the boys who get her in trouble. I kinda blame BM - she's the one who told SD14 she needed a boyfriend. The first boy just wanted to get in her pants and dumped her when she wouldn't, the second boy she got caught sexting - phone and computer were taken away.

Four months later, she gets the computer back. For two days. She was caught talking on FB to the first boy, who BM forbade her to talk to. So, the computer is gone again.

When BM divorced DH in 2002, she really bent him over the barrel. She took 1/2 of the house, a vehicle, all the furniture, (including heirloom pieces he brought into the marriage) 1/4 of his pre-tax income, he carries SD on his insurance, and he pays for ALL transportation for visitation. (900 miles) Plus, she'd hit him up for money all the time. Not long after, he got promoted, and she tried to go after him for increased CS, but he moved and his income actually dropped, so she couldn't.

So, SD14 is in marching band. They're performing this weekend, and one of the songs is Lady Gaga's Poker Face.

Apparently BM has been telling anybody who listens about DH - he's a hardcore Army Ranger who is into death metal, easily angered, intolerant, etc. We've seen evidence of this when SD14 will tell me about things BM has said about us, and insisted that I not tell DH because "Dad might get mad!" or when talking about a future boyfriend being disrespectful - "Dad would get mad and beat him up, huh?"

We're crazy, right?

BM really stuck it to DH in 2002, when the CS was assessed. However, she hasn't moved to get it raised since then. Meanwhile, he's been getting 4% raises and longevity raises, and has been promoted twice - his income has doubled. And, he's getting promoted for the final time at the end of next year. That's a big one, his income will go up another $950/month.