"She's just your father's wife!!"
Ah yes, the gems I get to hear from SD14... Apparently, BM has flipped out on SD14 when she called me her stepmom. According to BM, I'm NOTHING to SD14, certainly NOT a mother-figure, I'm just her father's wife. Sounds familiar doesn't it?
Meanwhile, SD14 is in the middle of her punishment detail; she's writing an essay about the dangers of letting teens have unlimited/unmonitored access to technology. We had (and will continue to have) some serious talks about growing up and adult things like dating and sex. I'm pretty satisfied that SD14 is taking the talks to heart; either that or she's an outstanding actress.
BM drives me nuts. She thinks DH is still her dog to call to heel, but he refuses. She won't let SD14 chose her own hairstyle or clothes. SD14 doesn't even want to do anything outrageous - she wants to grow her hair long, maybe color it a darker brown (NOT black), wear something other than pink, and wants to wear a 1-piece swimsuit because she's uncomfortable with her body. BM insists she keep her hair at shoulder-length, and bought SD14 a bikini and pink clothes (capris, T-shirts, etc) and tries to force her to wear them. How in the world does BM expect her daughter to make serious life decisions when she's not even trusted to pick out her clothes?
It's a good thing we don't live nearby; someone would end up in jail for assault or murder, and I'm not sure who it would be.