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NCMilGal's picture

STalkers, I need you to write this email for me.

SD15 has repeatedly gotten in trouble for explicitly texting (oops, phone's gone) and IMing boys over the last year.

I offered her a Young Writer's camp for Xmas (it's worth over $2k when all is said and done) with the caveat that she behave, ffs.

Riiight - late February, she's back at it again. So we took away the camp. That's money down the drain, but it's the principle of the thing.

SD15 got her Internet privileges back a couple days ago. (We don't talk on the phone because I'm not giving my info to BM - besides, I'm in Germany right now) The very first thing she did was tell me that she was ready to let me yell at her like BM and Stepdad and DH. I fired back, "screw that, you're going to ignore me and do whatever you want anyway. How about you tell me what's different this time?"

She told me what I wanted to hear. Bluntly, without pretending that she was an angel.

She also asked what she had to do to EARN camp back, but if it were a done deal, she would accept that.

I am torn. Is she bullshitting me again? (Probably) What should I ask her to do? Anything? It's not like letting her go is going to cost me anything, and I haven't even canceled her reservation yet.

My response is waiting in the Draft folder until you guys weigh in.

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Auteur's picture

I would put her on a one year "probationary" period. In the mean time install parental controls similar to this one: http://www.surveilstar.com/sexting-parental-control-software.html on the pc she uses and if there's a cell monitoring function, that also.

NO gifts, no presents, no special treatment until the one year probationary period is completed with success.

This kid is going to get herself in a world of trouble with the law.