What with SDstb16 (1 week) acting like an idiot lately, and using the excuse that "but you would be so disappointed in me" for why she couldn't POSSIBLY tell us what was going on even AFTER she was busted, there were some heavy-duty conversations in our house over the break.
DH told SDstb16 that yes, he had cheated on BM.** This was to show her that he is NOT PERFECT. He also told her (and showed her the documentation) that BM tried to put a restraining order on him at the time of the second divorce. After years of seeing DH act normally and seeing BM act like a drama whore, she concluded (on her own) that BM was full of shit when she filed that mess. BM is pissed because we were telling SDstb16 inappropriate things about her and DH's marriage. DH did not say ONE WORD about BM's affairs, although she got knocked up twice very quickly after starting them, so SD knows that they exist. DH thinks she's pissed because we took away a trump card: "Your dad is horrible because he cheated on me!" or "He's violent; I had to take out a restraining order for OUR PROTECTION!" Now that she has seen the specifics, SDstb16 knows what's what.
So now BM won't speak to DH. She told SDstb16 that we didn't support her (uh, no, we won't kiss her ass) and she wouldn't speak to us any more. She is also now blaming SDstb16 for my refusal to speak to her. First it was that DH is controlling me and not letting me talk to her, now it's because SDstb16 has said mean, horribly untrue things about her. The truth is, she is toxic, and I have better things to do than speak to an ignorant, bigoted, hypocrite. Plus, not my kid, and I never fucked BM, so not my duty to speak to her.
DH called and BM wouldn't come to the phone. She made her husband talk to him.
I swear, she is a fucking coward.