DH the enabler
hi! Its me again, Whining and complaining cuz once again DH go at it again in regards to his children (7 & 9). This time? Cuz i told him to stop enabling them.
Last time he couldnt have his 9 yr old son pull out his jeans from dryer once it was done drying. DH said because what if his son doesnt know how....are you serious? So it was brought up tonight because he says i expect to much of the kids as if they where adults. I asked him "So is having him pull out his own jeans from the dryer to much to expect from him?" He goes off to say that I should atleast teach him how to do it....like seriously! I gotta teach a 9 year old boy how to pull out his clean dried jeans out of the dryer?! My kids been doing it since they where 5 & 7 and i didnt even have to show them how.
I go on to remind him how his kids are always coming home telling us how they always help their mom do laundry and with chores at home. I Told him "So if your son helps his mom with laundry than I am sure he knows how to do such a simple task as pulling out clothes out the dryer. And why cant I expect them to do here what they do with their mom if they know how to do it?". He flips off and says "forget it! if its to much for you to teach them anything or help them than dont do it. Dont even wash their clothes since its to much"!
whattt thaaa'! where is this all coming from?!
Im gonna start counseling sessions for myself soon because I have some stuff i have to work on myself and all this BS is not healthy for me. Shit like this only brings me to a much darker place. Maybe I can get help on how to handle this crap since I still want to stay in this relationship and eventually have the counselor see him too.