A complete turn-BioMom Is Sick
Those who have read my previous blogs already have an idea of how my step kids are and DH but I havent talked much about the BioMom.
When I first met DH she was putting this man thru hell and back. She gives him the kids cuz she couldnt & didnt care for them, she was in a stable relationship and was out partying every weekend. When DH decides to take her to court to legally have full custody of them she snatches them back, putting a restraining order against him so he couldnt see the kids the first 3 months of their legal battle. She completely disregards everything that he had been thru with his kids and his emotionally well being.
They decide joint custody and most of the time she disregarded any opinions or suggestions he had in regards to decisions that needed to be made for the kids. Up until last year she and her guy split. Rumors have it that she was cheating (wouldnt be surprised. DH says he suspects she cheated while with him too). So she moves closer. Its been a hassle dealing with her because she is always making stupid choices in regards to the kids and DH is always the one dealing with the consequences. DH is always having sit downs with her to tell her that she needs to get her shit together but its like talking to the wall. Not to mention that this lady is always more concerned about being a friend first to her children than a parent, which is why I feel that it is another reason why the kids are how they are. DH and Biomom BOTH dont have set rules, enable them, dont enforce decipline and just let these kids do as they please. Its just so much more of her to tell because she really is not a good person, but this is just some stuff and i just cannot stand her.
Well, DH just found out today she has cancer and today she is finding out how advance it is. I kinda feel bad for her, even after all the shit she has done, but it makes me question alot of things? She relys on DH alot because she has distanced herself from her own family over some real petty shit on her part. She is literally alone. And than what about the kids when they find out their mom is sick. I want to be there for them because its a sucky situation to be in at a young age, knowing your mom is sick but since they already feel like they are intitled(thanks to mom and dads lack of parenting ways), will they expect even more? and will DH feel like "No, you cant tell them nothing because my poor kids have their mom sick". He already feels like "my poor kids have it bad because they are back and forth and dont have mom and dad together" which is why I feel he is how he is a father, but now that she is sick, now what? I dont even know what to think or what to expect.