First, I would like to thank everyone on this website for the most beautiful gift. The gift of peace. You have shown me how to disconnect and set up healthier boundaries around my heart and life. I stopped taking on all of BioMom and DH responsibilities, took myself out of the middle of it, and started saying no on the rare occasion to DH. I had far less interaction with BM and it made my life SO enjoyable. That said, we are still dealing with court, we ran out of money to pay to finish the Custody Evaluation, we spent 14 hours one day in mediation, and accomplished nothing.
Anyone else experience a sudden disappearance the minute the biomom shows up? Not from your Husband or the Kids, but suddenly, you seem to disappear to your husband and whomever Biomom is sleeping with and convincing she loves at the moment disappears to her?
After years of contention, and years of me being the Skid primary caregiver and only present parent, I asked my husband if I could skip mediation to attend a field trip with our daughter. My biological kids have been on the back burner since entering this relationship and a year ago I said "no more!" We are in a highly volatile situation where BM enjoys hurting me and him as much as possible. Every time I see her she laughs at me, or violated the Reteaining order my husband got against her in an attempt to get his attention and also to irritate me.
When I met my MIL the first time she seemed to be an amazing woman. She asked me many questions, and as we were leaving I heard her whisper to my husband "She's a beautiful girl!" I was so happy because I was very concerned that I should only enter a family where I was welcomed with open arms. Well, when we were dating and I was doing all of the kids laundry and picking them up and watching them nonstop for his ex wife she adored me, or pretended to. The first time I ever thought anything other than she approved was when we told them we were getting married.
Tomorrow the Skidz go home for the weekend! Yay! Anyone else count down to when life will return to seminormalcy? I am. I can't wait to not have to break up fights, correct abusive behavior and language, and fight to keep my two little ones away from their VERY behavioraly and morally messed up brothers to keep them safe. I don't have to listen to constant complaints or deal with little ears spying on my Husband and I. I don't have to try to frisk them to ensure they are not taking my financial documents, my business information, dishes, their sisters money, my money, their friends pa
Yesterday the court requests for not just my husbands financials, but mine, and my employees, as well came in. Three years ago when we went to court she owed us child support, but we agreed to waive that, pay her 100 a month, and pay all medical because we wanted the kids safe and it gave us primary custody. Now that we are going to court AGAIN (because of her pedophile boyfriend who she conveniently broke up with AGAIN), and we own our own business, she wants to see how much she can potentially get. Now, we have always been honest, and she has always lied about income.
last night around 7:45 I come home with my BD's to a witch hunt. SS11 has a missing penny from his science fair project and can't find it anywhere. It is obvious someone stole it as the bag is out of his backpack and on the floor. He immediately accuses my toddler, even though she has yet to see him after school and it just came home. Even though a toddler would have taken out all the money in the bag, and left a mess.
For five years we have been locked in a legal battle. BM first married a guy for a week, had it annulled, the. There was husband number three. A man with a volatile temper. He broke a tv in front of the kids by slamming it to the ground repeatedly, and spanked the oldest SS so hard he kicked him back in the genitals to get away. Then (while still married to number three) she starts dating a convicted sex offender, and with every new love interest there is a paycheck and a move for the Steps. That was just in a year and a half.
I am new to this group, but a six year stepmom. I am overwhelmed by the crazy that is my life. My DH has two ex BM's. One is borderline personality, and a narcissistic master manipulator. The other is a former meth addicted purse snatcher. What that says about me I shutter to think, though in my defense I didn't know these things until we were engaged. I had BM #1 dump the kids on me from day 1 (probably assuming they would make me run and not that I was the most patient person she would ever encounter). Then, after nine months she takes them away. Then does it again. And again.