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MrsRobinson's picture

Lemme lay down this juice for ya. BM is almost 40, lives with parents (yes including her children half time), has never worked a day in her life until she divorced and had to get a job. Anyways, right now my boyfriend (divorced, 35) and I live in a home he bought and rented during his marriage. We decided to live here until we could sell it to find our more forever home. Right now it’s on market, has been for months. Nothing is selling here, price is super inflated. Well now BM is trying to say it won’t sell because we have trashed it (not true), so she went through the house seeing it was spotless. Now she’s asked us to “buy her out” of the house but when the realtor sat down and shown her how little she would get out of it, she is now hiring an attorney. So now, we have our attorney, and she is threatening us with this attorney, but mind you she has violated the divorce agreement 3 times. This father’s day, my boyfriend tried to call her to talk about their 10 year old (he suffers from anxiety and depression, and a lot of it stems from the neglect and abuse from his mother, who has now told him (10 yo son), that she hates him and wishes his father would just take him. He is now developing a germ complex, showers often to “wash away the dirt,” as soon as he gets to our house he goes to the shower. I truly feel so  bad for this kid, I couldn’t imagine the shame and guilt he doesnt understand. Why his mother doesn’t love him, why she treats his siblings differently than him. Anyways, father’s day, he tried to call her to talk about 10 being upset over having to go back to her house, she hung up, called back again with the attorney on the phone. Boyfriend refused to talk, saying how ridiculous this is. Then, 15m later, while we were opening father’s day gifts, the cops show up for a “wellness check.” Obviously the cops left seeing 10 is okay and safe. But that’s where we are now. It’s just mind blowing the audacity, and it doesn’t even stop there.

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Areyou's picture

I just wonder why you have chosen to put up with this being that you are young and have no children of your own. 

fustratedintexas's picture

Not your monkey not your circus.

Ex moved in with girlfriend 10 days after our divorce was final. She was your age he was 40. That lasted 5 years. He didn't want to marry, forget more kids. He strung her along for 5 years. He'd visit his family in Argentina for a month and leave her at home alone. She was a teacher too so she could of gone. She finally left him. Food for thought.

fustratedintexas's picture

Not your monkey not your circus.

Ex moved in with girlfriend 10 days after our divorce was final. She was your age he was 40. That lasted 5 years. He didn't want to marry, forget more kids. He strung her along for 5 years. He'd visit his family in Argentina for a month and leave her at home alone. She was a teacher too so she could of gone. She finally left him. Food for thought.

twoviewpoints's picture

Imagine that, a lawyer with nothing to do on Father's Day but be on stand-by in case BM wants him/her to do a three-way conference call. And fifteen minute wait for a welfare check by the police. Geez, must have been BM's lucky day. 

Anyhow, why doesn't Dad just take the child if BM is trying to give the father the ten year old child? 

I feel for this little boy. He's already a wreck , at the whopping age of ten. He has a BM who has emotionally destroyed the child and Daddy's new live-in GF who announced she wishes he didn't have children. You're going to have to make up your mind. This man has three children, one who is dire need of intervention and can't be wished away. You're 25. Is this the way you want to live the next 15 years of your life? You've been there, what eight months? And you're already living in a nightmare. It'll only ramp up from here on out. 

momjeans's picture

Anyways, father’s day, he tried to call her to talk about 10 being upset over having to go back to her house, she hung up, called back again with the attorney on the phone.

I seriously doubt that was an attorney on the phone. Your boyfriend isn’t buying this BS sandwich - is he? 

Since they’ve both lawyered-up, perhaps they should hash things out that way. Document all the emotional abuse BM is subjecting her son to, and fight it out in court. That is, unless y’all like fighting.