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BM Wants to give SS to us for a year or two until she gets herself together

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Submitted by mrsparks on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 7:14am

When DH called for SS last night, BM gets on the phone and notifies him that, she can't afford SS right now, she has no job and no money and she can't support 3 boys, she asked if we could take SS for a year or two until she gets back on her feet.

Mind you she has been running the streets every single weekend without fail, and seems to always have money for that..

We were scheduled for our first visitation/custody hearing in May because as they were never married DH had no rights- well this changes the whole ballgame, I definitely need some advice, I know he'll be better off with us, but it's going to be a pretty big adjustment.. I have an 8 year old son and 16 year old daughter as well..

What do we do? Have her sign over her parental rights? SS is way behind and I can't imagine getting him all up to speed and then having her say, Oh.. I'm ready to take him back now..

Help...

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Submitted by sparky on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 7:41am

You call an attorney and tell him its an emergency and get her there for the meeting. Get those documents signed; she gives you full custody and control and he pays her nothing. You have to do it while she is in the mood before she changes her mind. If you tell the attorney what the issue is they will work you in. Dont wait, do it now.

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Submitted by sparky on Tue, 04/14/2009 - 7:43am

If she will not sign the documents for permanent instead of 2 years dont do it. Thats another can of worms that I would not get involved in.

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Submitted by Most Evil on Wed, 04/15/2009 - 5:46am

custody. Quick before she changes her mind!! Do NOT take him without getting legal, written, court approved custody first.

Our BM has done this to us several times but always changes her mind when she figures out, we are not paying child support if we have custody, and she will be.

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

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Submitted by TinaKay on Sun, 04/19/2009 - 2:34pm

I agree with most evil.

Have her sign papers giving up custody FIRST
then hot her with the child support.

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Submitted by mrsparks on Thu, 04/16/2009 - 7:27am

Because she has not decided 100% yet. SS is 4.5 so he's still in his young years but is way behind and needs tons of help, he will never make it into Kindergarten at this point.. He has been out of daycare for awhile now.. Our lawyer says not to trust her because she's a psychopath and to have her write a letter stating that she's giving him to us and then have her drop him off at our house so that she can't claim kidnapping after the fact..and he will write the papers up.. Of course we haven't heard a word for the last few days, so I don't know what she's up to..