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BM has kept SS from DH for a month/ no phone contact as well..

mrsparks's picture

& called the police on him last time on his scheduled visit just to be an idiot.

She texted him last night saying that he could come there and they could draw up papers, and that if he would pay for daycare "etc" that she would get his child support lowered. Umm what?!

Well we're going to the lawyer Friday to sign the affidavit to start the proceedings for full/regular custody and visitation she is slightly aware of this, but I believe she thinks he's bluffing- $2100 says we're not..

She's trying to play nice now because I believe she knows what's coming, not only that, she's still in the middle of a court battle concerning her middle child, I think the reason for bringing up DH paying for daycare has to do with her getting SS kicked out of 3 daycares because of her mouth, she was getting a voucher for the daycare, but if SS keeps getting kicked out or she's not working, she loses it. She does not have the money to battle us, and I believe she's aware she'll surely lose- she also is aware that if it's found that he's not in daycare, which I'm almost 95% he isn't and his skills show it,she's dead in the water..

She ended the texts with DH last night by saying "What happened to us?" WHAT? That made me sick.. What happened to us.... b*tch please....

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sarahbernheart's picture

I remember when ex would call FH and they would be arguing about something and at the end she would say what can we do that can help OUR son.
biatch please, you kicked him out when he was just barely 13 and didnt have any contact with him for almost a year??
that used to make me laugh out loud.
and did make me sick too.

"Better a diamond with a flaw than a pebble without one."

mrsparks's picture

They were never married so they just had a verbal agreement, he was getting him 5 days a week until they were going to modify her child support, then she "allowed" DH to get SS every weekend and would meet him half way UNTIL he met and married me.. then she started to get very difficult, told him that he needed to pick him up and drop him off 1.5 hrs each way, and then it turned into every other weekend, and now there's not visits or phonecalls at all.

We sign the court papers this Friday then we should get a court date within' 4 weeks.

stepmom2one's picture

don't agree to anything with her, that didn't work last time why would it work now.

She doesn't have the money and once the judge hears that H had the child 5 days a wk till she wanted support she will look money hungry.

mrsparks's picture

Well I told him to tell her there's not enough time to tell her "what went wrong with us" it would take a decade- the conversation revolved around her and her actions [through text] and after all that she still never let him speak to his son.. I'm sick of it all.. court time! time to nip it all in the a**!

mrsparks's picture

She's a loser and a whore- I'll be glad when the court can make the rules and that she can finally be held accountable..

Anon2009's picture

BM withheld the kids from DH but we had a visitation plan in place with the courts so after her doing this a few times we were awarded custody. I'm glad you're going to court and getting a visitation plan in place. BM needs to be held accountable, and let's hope that the judge will tell her the consequences she faces for violating the visitation plan.

mrsparks's picture

He told DH to be prepared because he may very possibly get full and will definitely get regular
She's in the middle of a custody disbute with her middle son as well- she does the same thing to his Dad- he just got married as well..

mrsparks's picture

and quiet as it's kept, I don't even think the kid is his..
but that's another story, he loves him as his, and knows BM will keep him from him 4 ever if he wasn't the father.

melis070179's picture

Trust me, she can't. He's the legal father. We're in the same situation. Once BM names him as the father, she can't do anything legally to change it. Even the legal father can't. Only the bio dad can request a paternity action to do court appointed dna testing, and even thats at the discretion of the judge.

with the enemy"

mrsparks's picture

DH is sick about her someday trying to take off and then saying he's not the father behind it.. the woman is nuts..

mrsparks's picture

SS already is delayed- he's 4.5 but acts 2- It's pathetic.

stepmasochist's picture

just go pick him up from daycare if he wants to see him. If there is no visitation order in place, they shouldn't be able to do anything about it. I know schools can't here unless they have court documents that say BM or BD are only supposed to have them on certain days.

I'm suprised that a CS order did not outline visitation. I know FH's did. Or is he voluntarily paying CS with no order as well?

mrsparks's picture

living with her..! but no visitation order unfortunately..
She has been refusing to tell him where SS is going to daycare, that's because we find out from her middle child's father that SS was kicked out because of mom's mouth...

stepmom2one's picture

My SDs BM was having my H (before I met him) pay her an additional $50 per week for daycare expenses when she recieved FULL aid from the state for it.

When I met him I said I don't think that is right, tell her to apply for assistance. He told her, then 2DAYS later she says she was approved he didn't have to pay anymore. It take a couple of months for the whole process--lots of paperwork.

My H was already paying support before when he was still living with her also. She told the court that she had sole custody and that he didn't even visit! H stupidly went along with it, so that really hurt him when they BM kicked him out and refused any visits with SD for about 6 mths.

When I met my H I straightened out the visitation (set up mediation) and caught her in a lie about daycare expenses. Sadly he paid an extra $50 a wk to her for 2 years before we got together.

And medical too. She was covered under MA when they were together. Then BM canceled it when they split, took out healthcare--submitted the bill (H half $65 a month) to have it added to CS. Then she cancelled the health insurance and got back on MA!! So he paid for medical that BM was not paying for over 5 yrs--then she got kicked off becuz she makes to much. BUT she forgot she had lied to the court years back and shows my H the bill and asks for half!! He said I have been paying half since '01, you've just been collecting while getting FREE insurance. BM didn't believe him, so he showed her the paperwork--boy you should have seen her face!!

So anyway, when you go to court be sure that she is not collecting twice on everything. Or that her lawyer isn't giving her tips on how to screw you guys. The only way to really be sure is for you to get 50/50 or full custody--go for it!!