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SO called me ; Skids are tough.

Mrs.Marvel's picture

Ss12 has the flu, and will be staying at home-probably all week, and Sd13 is gone to school. 

For some reason Ss is proned to get very high fevers, why ,I don't know. Doctors have done test, scanned his brain to see if everything is alright with regards to his hypothalamus; everything is normal. In the past 3 years, he's been rushed to the emergency , I think 3 times due to his fevers getting too high (sometimes they don't, sometimes they do). 

He was a fever, and SO and Bm have always either worked from home in order to monitior him, or have gotten their parents to come watch him if they're unable to. SO decided that he is going to work from home today to just watch  him and  if need be take him to the hospital . Ss goes into the kitchen to refill his glass of water  and SO  goes to see how he's doing. He looked at SO with the same emotionless stare, and said  "Hello", noting more, noting less. Ss kept closeing his eyes and SO just put his hand on his forehand to check is fever; Ss says " thank you for your concern"and went back upstairs. WHAT!!!!!!. YOU'RE THANKING YOUR DAD FOR BEING CONCERN ABOUT YOUR HEALTH. 

SO just called me and explained to me what happened. He doesn't know what to do?. I don't understand, how they treat their own father like this?? That man loves those kids like no tomorrow, and they're talking to him like stoich robots!. All because he told them that they have to treat me with respect (HIS FIANCEE)!!

I haven't even looked at my previous post to look at the comments, I had to post this first. 

 

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Mrs.Marvel's picture

I went and read all of the comments I'm so glad to have found steptalk. 

Honestly I don't know what I would do without this site. Thank you!

tog redux's picture

I hope SO said, "you are welcome for my parental concern, dear son," and then shooed him back upstairs. IGNORE all this stuf.

Mrs.Marvel's picture

I wish!!

oneoffour's picture

He obviously not that sick if he continues the Stepford child act.

SO should go upstairs and tell him he and his sister can continue this silly game for as long as they like because SO has already been a 12 yr old boy and know just what goes on in their minds. SO will beat them at their own game. In fact his new name for them should be sibling 1 and sibling 2. And all contact will be met with the same level of detachment. "Public Service Announcement: Dinner is prepared and will be available from 2100-2200hrs. After this time the kitchen will be off limits/ PBS #2. All laundry will be deposited in the correct receptical in the lower level laundry by 1100hrs. PBS #3 Please collect your personal property. The vehicular conveyance will leave at 1505 hrs for your maternal residence." 

Let them work out the 24 hr clock if they think they are so freaking clever. Just wait it out. Plan something fun to do while they are upstairs being Stepford siblings. Be absolutely cold and direct with them with no self expression. I could beat them in 24 hrs. 

elkclan's picture

These kids are clever. I gotta hand it to them. He should take pride in this attempt and then just SHRUG.IT.OFF. 

If I understand correctly, he showed them the door if they couldn't treat you with respect. I agree they must treat you with respect, but if there is split custody - he has no right to show them the door. He has a responsibility to those minor kids and they have a home with him. Part of that responsibility is creative correction and punishment. Threatening to kick kids out of their home is destabilising and destructive. And so long as they are complying with the letter of the law - so be it. 

They'll snap out of it. He needs to IGNORE the cold shoulder and find other ways to correct and punish if they're being disrespectful.