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8 days since SO broke up with me

Mrs.Marvel's picture

And I miss him dearly. My friend went to his place because he texted me to inform me that I left some things back at his place. 

Ever since then, I haven't heard a peep from him. Why does it hurt so much?  I wish he would at least try to talk to me at least once. I miss his hands, I miss him holding me, I miss him saying he loves me, I miss looking down and seeing  my engagement ring.

I miss him so much. I wish I didn't but I do


Step-girlfriend's picture

Wow. TBH, I’m surprised by his actions. I really thought he would have rethought his choice already. I would have a really hard time going 8 days without contacting the person I love. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I would be feeling the same way... hugs.

notsurehowtodeal's picture

Breaking up is always hard, but I think it is especially hard when it is out of the blue and not something that you at all want. Hang in there. Cliche though it may be, time will help.

In the meantime, what are you doing to help yourself? I see nothing wrong with wallowing in your misery for a few days - whether that is eating chocolate or drinking a bit or staying in bed and watching soap operas. After that you need to begin to take some steps to get your life back. Reconnect with friends and get out of the house. Do what makes you happy - go for walk or to a movie. Physical activity helps when you are down.

You will want to contact him, but I wouldn't do it. Don't stalk him on social media. Try and stay strong.

Monkeysee's picture

I’m so sad for you Mrs Marvel. Make sure you’ve got lots of support & keep yourself busy. I don’t know why he’s gone so cold, it’s really bizarre to just shut out someone you love like that. Take time for yourself to heal, and when you’re ready I hope you meet the most wonderful (and childless) man out there. 

fairyo's picture

I completely understand- it took me a while to realise that I meant very little to TheX after nine years of being together. I still don't know what went wrong because we could never have a meaningful conversation. When I walked out he was completely unconcerned about where I was, and to this day does not know where I am. I really feel for you especially at this time of year but as others have said- do not make a move. Just have contact with the people who appreciate you and want to spend time with you, and gradually it will become easier. You will even have days when you do not think about him at all. Develop your own sense of self-worth, take the good wishes of all who offer them and let him become someone who may look at you from an old photograph and make you think- I remember him, what a loser!

Siemprematahari's picture

I want to wish you much strength. I know this is difficult and you have so many raw emotions. Please take care of you. Do all the things that you enjoy and things that you may have set aside see if you have time to do them now and be kind to yourself. Cry if you need to and know that this is a blessing in disguise.