Hospital Stays
So SD is back in the hospital for severe dehydration (again on her BM's time) because BM is too big of a pussy to make her 8 year old drink f*in water when she is throwing up. Seriously, yesterday she had to call DH to get SD to eat a freaking piece of toast. Anyway, she has been sick since Monday and dumb dumb BM let it go long enough that SD is now admitted to a children's hospital.
Not only that, but instead of BM driving her from one children's hospital to another (DH couldn't get there in time to do it) SD was taken by ambulance on my insurance bill.
Now I don't want to hear about how insensitive I am being because this is the second time in a few months that SD has been admitted and it is all because BM will not make SD drink when she is throwing up. Now they are seriously considering Addison's Disease. They have done blood work, CT scan, and urine test. We still have no answers. They say that is possibly why SD has had the anxiety issues lately. IMHO, I think it is all being blown way out of proportion and until there is a diagnosis, I will continue to believe that.
My questions for you all are, what would you all do in a situation where your steps had to be in the hospital for an extended stay? Would you be right there by your spouses side? Would you put your life on hold to make that happen? Would your spouse want to stay the night with their child? DH does and I understand because I would too if it were my bio children, but only one parent can stay. Who wins this job? As a side note, DH is miserable even having to deal with being around BM, let alone around her in a small hospital room with her flapping her jaws about how this is some how all of our fault, she just hasn't figured out how yet.
I actually hope they DO find something wrong with SD because if this is a big farse like last time, I will no longer give a shit that poor wittle SD is sick and throwing up. Boy who cried wolf you know...
And no, I haven't gone to the hospital. I am home with MY kids, where I feel I belong, but I am sure BM will blast about how I didn't go and I am such a horrible SM blah, blah ,blah.
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OK if you go to the hospital
OK if you go to the hospital BM is sure to bitch that you have no business being there. It is a lose/lose situation.
BM has issues and Muchausen's by Proxy comes to mind, especially if nothing comes of the tests and it very well could be all BM's doing. It is easy to dehydrate a kid and make them so sick they get hospitalized. Heck I am an adult and I have to make a conscious effort to drink fluids and do the BRAT when I am throwing up. I would rather lie in bed and not move. My mother always asks me if I am taking fluids and I am a grown adult and I guess legitimately old enough for grandkids and she still asks. So yes BM could have caused this and SD is sick and not thinking she needs fluids. What kid does? BM could have amped SD up and gotten her so anxious and once you stop eating and drinking it is a viscious cycle. You take a little in and throw it right back up.
Stay home for now, visit SD tomorrow without your kids and see what the tests say.
Oh and I feel for you on the ambulance. That is the most ridiculous thing. I remember when we got a great HMO that paid for the ambulance in full and that was the only time we called. I dislocated my hip before we had that plan and I had someone drive me rather than call the ambulance and get that bill.
I wondered about munchausens
I wondered about munchausens too. Ive had very sick children before and never had them hospitalized for dehydration. Though once I was so ill with flu I became dehydrated enough to need I.V. fluids
I can see once but twice???
I can see once but twice??? That starts pinging my radar.
Yah. Twice? Hmmm... Either
Yah. Twice? Hmmm...
Either way it sucks for the girl. A disease or a mother with questionable actions...
Your not wrong for staying
Your not wrong for staying home with your children. If you went the BM would put you on blast for not knowing your place to stay away. You can't win. And your children need you.
I hope your SD is going to be okay. Her mum needs to give her some pediatric drinks and popsicles to keep her hydrated if possible.
Well if it is contagious you
Well if it is contagious you don't want to expose other people to it do you? }:)
And a child doesn't need steps and halfs and the whole extended family thing. If she is sick enough for hospital all she wants is to sleep and get better.
So if BM says you are absolutely hateful and obviously HATE her wonderful ever-so-sick-on-deaths-door daughter then just say NO. I don't not hate your daughter. But she needs her parents. She's got them.