Not Buying Presents for SD17
A good moment presented itself for me to tell DH that I won't be buying Christmas presents for SD17 this year. I won't use DH's money to shop for him for SD either. Any presents he wants her to have he will have to shop for them and buy them with his own money. DH took it well and understood. Every year I stress out shopping for all the kids. I stress the most over SD's gifts. Did I spend enough money on her? Will she think I spent fairly? Is it presents she has been wanting? Will she love or at least like them? Will she be happy with what she receives? SD has shown over time that she appreciates none of her gifts and gets upset because she should have gotten more stuff and more expensive things. Many times she either loses what we give her, gives it away, shoves it in a corner, or donates it. This is even with things that aren't gifts but things that she has asked for saying she needs. Soon as I buy it for her it goes unused. Its like she just wants to see if we will buy it for her.
This holiday season and for her birthday I will buy her a card. That's all the effort I'm doing anymore. She can complain about her treatment to anyone she wants. Its not like they haven't heard it before and I stopped caring what her enablers think of me a long time ago.