Help me before I help them off a bridge!!!
Well...it's been a long time since I've been on here!! Mainly because I lost my password AGAIN and was too lazy to set up a new one!!
I have been sneaking around reading everyone's blogs to see if I found something similar to my current problem...but I could not, so I'm hoping that I can get lots of incite on my own!
This problem has been going on since...no lie...the day my now 13 month old daughter was born!!!
My mil has been flat out ignoring her for sd6. I've blogged about it before and can't remember where I left off!! I wasn't going to invite her to bd's birthday party for fear that she would continue on the same path but dh threw a fit. (sd's mom let her come that weekend and miss her million sporting events)
(I'm on my phone so if this is hard to read or choppy...I apologize in advance)
I was right. And not only did mil do it...so did both BILs and SIL. the only person that even held/played with bd was MIL but that was only once after my dh shoved her in MILs lap. After putting bd on MILs lap, mil put her on the side of her left leg, turned to her right towards sd6 and started to tell her how much she had missed her blah blah blah. The party continued (for 2 hours) with these people acting like it was sd6s party and bd was not even there. At the end the in laws were the last to leave and not one of them said goodbye to my bd but made sure to hug and kiss and tell sd6 how much they wanted her to come visit. Mil Took sd6 on the 45 min trek home. Even talked to dh about getting sd6 again on the following weekend for a fam reunion) Said nothing to anyone but dh and his fam. I was fuckin furious.
So..the plot thickens.
Dh called his mom and told her we wouldnt be going To the reunion due to his family blatenly ignoring our bd and mil said," well I'm sorry you all aren't going. What about sd6?" Ho didn't apologize, say it wouldn't happen again, cuss at him..just worried about sd6 being able to make it. Fast forward some more...she calls 2 days later and tells dh that the reason she might not have paid attentionto bd was because her back was Killing her and she even had to stop 3 times on her way home from taking sd. (even though she held BILs 15 month old and newborn and pulled sd6 into her lap about 30 times and also her back didn't hurt her too much to talk to sd6s mom about reunion and what day we would pick her up and have her home-I read the email from bm) so dh and I had to get into a huge argument once again just for him to see how fucked up his family is for doing this to his daughter for her whole life..so far.
His plan is to go this Sunday to sit mil and fil down to tell them they start treating bd the same, acknowledge and apologize for what they've been doing.....or they need to stay the hell out of our lives and that includes sd.
I told dh that I would not be apart of this convo cause I would just be in prison afterwards. I know he is torn between all of us but how will I know that he really talked to them about it and it really goes how he says.
Any advice/comments on any part of this mess would be greatly appreciated.