Do you feel like the “Parent”?
Have you ever been mistaken by someone as your SK’s BP? How did that make you feel?
I know there are a variety of situations here; some where this “mistake” would be an accurate the reflection of the SP-SK relationship, while others might cringe in horror at the mere thought!
My SKs aren’t “bad” kids, nor unattractive ones. I would NOT be "embarrassed" if someone mistook them for my own BKs, but at the same time I do NOT like it when people mistake me to be my SKs’ BM, mainly because that means people assume I have children that old!
Call it shallow if you want, but for me to be SS19’s mom I would’ve had to have a baby at 17yo, and frankly one of my accomplishments I’m most proud of is that I was able to escape the vicious cycle of teenage pregnancy and shotgun weddings that seems rampant in my family and rather achieve most of my educational and career goals BEFORE I had my first child at the age of 30. So for me, if FEELS like my accomplishments that I am so proud of are diminished when people lump me into the pile of teen moms that I worked so hard to avoid!