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Child Support....

mommadukes2015's picture

SO CSU finally got an address for BM. I'm assuming they served papers on her because we received ours yesterday. I manage the finances and the paperwork in this house so I'm filling out DH's income/expenditure report.

I have listed SS12 (from BM1), SD (BM2 whom SO pays CS for) and BD2 (who is SO & I's child).

Now, do I list the full amount of "rent" and BD's daycare, or just his half? There is a separate question asking how many people live in our home in addition to SO, so I listed 3. SO and I make roughly the same amount of money +/- 1k per year. I've listed his car (but it's in my name-technically it's my car, when SO's truck died the Pink Slime Death a couple of months ago my dad spotted me the money to buy an old lady car to get him back/forth to work because the truck is now worthless and SO is so upside down on it, we voluntarily surrendered it to the loan holder. Since SO and I are not married and my father spotted me the money, I registered it in my name to protect the investment since SO and I are not married-just incase) technically, we are making payments on SO's car to my father-does that count as "debt you are paying"?.

I have also compiled paperwork from BM2 from last year when they went to court to establish insurance (NYS doesn't give you a choice-BM2 is on Medicaid and the DSS requires the NCP's income be examined by the court to cover insurance premiums). His CS order in BM2's case is directly taken out of SO's paycheck (for ease) but only covers the insurance premium. He also pays her additional monies each week for actual support that is not court ordered (I have evidence to prove this as well).

Now, SO paid BM1 Child Support off the books as well. He has some inconsistent proof of it, and BM never took him to court for CS because she's got better things to do (obviously) like drink and locate a sugar daddy. Will this come up? We have had physical custody of SS11 since April of 2016. The court order reads that SO has physical custody with open and liberal visitation as agreed upon by both parities, and they have joint legal custody (SO did not want to take that from BM). The whole thing is 1 1/2 pages and so far the vagueness has worked to our advantage. BM has seen SS for a total of less than 24 hours since January of this year. She doesn't pay for ANYTHING including school clothing. She once gave SO $3 for gas and $50 once. She then bought SS a pair of shoes for Easter. That is the extent of her support over the last year.

The appointed magistrate also oversaw Uncle Jackass's CS cases and he stuck it to UJ (which sucks, I don't think it's fair, but he's been an ass as of recent, so what goes around comes around) but I'm nervous that this judge doesn't care for men, so I'm just trying to make sure I have every base covered.

SOS.

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Acratopotes's picture

You list none of your assets on that list.

and regarding BD - you split all expenses 50/50 between you and SO.
You are not married his debt is not your problem ... stop paying for it Wink

mommadukes2015's picture

I'm going to have to white it out then, I thought about it after I wrote it.

My dad bought the car for SO because he likes SO and he wasn't going to ask to be paid back (personally I think it's out of guilt because he was a deadbeat for half my life) but I insisted that the money be paid back (because I don't like things hanging over my, or anyone else's head).

Technically, it's SO's money, I just write the check, so that's where the "we" comes from Smile

ItsGrowingOld's picture

In what way was your dad a deadbeat for half your life? I'm genuinely curious.....

mommadukes2015's picture

When my parents divorced, he fought my mom to not have to pay child support. He and his GF (whom I babysat for and was close to, all the while he was married to my mother) planned to move to MA with my sister and I, when we did not willingly follow along with this plan he made it unbearable for us to remain living with him. Then he fought and fought and fought not to pay child support, had no interest in establishing custody, tried to say I was "emancipated" because I was at college (which doesn't work like that)-when that didn't work he asked me to emancipate myself (which in NY you can do) and then held the shared assets he was supposed to pay my mother in escrow until we agreed to his terms.

He fought not to support my sister and I as best he could. He didn't bother to try for the better part of 10 years and I did not care. I walked away from all of it. After I had my daughter, he began to change his tune. I am not the kind of person that can be bought, for any amount of anything and despite my telling him this, he offers to pay for things all the time which I only allow if it's going to save me a significant headache and stress. I needed new tires on my car and bought them for me for Christmas. Then be bought this car for SO-which we are paying him back for because I don't think I will ever fully trust him. I wrote up, and we both signed a payment agreement.

ItsGrowingOld's picture

What an awful thing to go through at young age. I'm sorry your dad put you through this Sad

What's your mom like?

mommadukes2015's picture

Well thank you, but I'm fine now. I got over all of it years ago. This relationship with my dad is fairly new still.

She's interesting to say the least.

nengooseus's picture

Anything in your name isn't his for the purpose of a CS case.

Anything that isn't documented through the court (i.e. CS that he pays) doesn't exist for the purpose of this case (because he could choose not to pay it in the future without legal ramifications).

mommadukes2015's picture

He would never not pay BM2, I just want the judge to see that he doesn't need the court to hold him responsible-the judge wrote on his CS order that they are "cooperating parents" who have an agreement that does not require court intervention. I've never seen that before, but I want to make sure that if this judge likes to eat men, he knows that SO is responsible-plus that CS is a significant expense.

WalkOnBy's picture

THIS